Hey ya’ll! It’s Megan here and I AM your FAVORITE Transformation Life Coach! Welcome in if this is your first time here, welcome back if you’re already part of the Yes God Family!
Goddess Consciousness
Here at Yes GOD Wellness, we focus on Goddess Consciousness, which is an awareness of the divine feminine energy within ALL of us. Goddess Consciousness is intentional about pausing to observe how we TRULY FEEL in any given situation or circumstance… and then honoring those emotions so that we can live in alignment with our true authentic self while having the space to nurture ourselves and others. Goddess Consciousness is also about understanding that our worth and value is intrinsic (or internal), it is not defined by our external possessions or circumstances.
Today, I am going to discuss how YOU, yes YOU…. are the common denominator in your own problems. (yes you are!!) The GREAT news is that although we ARE the problem, we are ALSO the solution.
My goal is to help you STOP sabotaging yourself and start using that beautiful mind and heart of yours….to manifest all the things you want for your life.
The 1st way I am going to help you to stop self sabotage is by making you aware of HOW you’re even doing it in the first place. (I think its a fair to say that no SOUND person WANTS to sabotage themself..)
The 2nd way I am going to help you to stop sabotaging yourself is to introduce a new perspective and some very simple shifts that can enable you to immediately transform from passenger to pilot, from pawn to Queen, spectator to champion. Ok??
The 3rd way I am going to help you is by sharing my latest offering with you, which I am SUPER EXCITED ABOUT and that is the Become Unrecognizable Group Coaching Cohort, which begins October 1st. It is an 8 week program where we will have daily access to one another and will also meet one on one every week to create a safe space for you to come out of your anxious mind and embrace your Goddess Consciousness. This is going to help you magnetize more with less, along with experiencing a profound sense of joy and fulfillment as you watch your new life quickly unfolding before your eyes! We are going to become TRULY Unrecognizable.
Now, before we jump right in… I’m going to ask that you please keep an open mind as I share this information because if you’re ready and you implement what I am going to share today, it can ABSOLUTELY transform your life, 1000%, immediately.
I even challenge you to TEST the things I’m sharing and let me know what happens… Ok? Ok! Let’s get right into it.
Life hurts
Let me be the first one to say… I KNOW personally and firsthand that life has its highs and lows and can be painful and difficult… from childhood trauma, relationship trauma, financial issues, health issues, betrayal, accidents, depression, anxiety, losing loved ones and so much more. It’s a natural response to feel victimized by life’s circumstances.
Trauma can manifest itself in several ways that insidiously take over our life.. things like self doubt, fear of failure, feeling constantly overwhelmed, feeling stressed out, attracting wrong relationships, anger issues, emotional instability, procrastination, money blocks, burnout, comparison and envy, people pleasing, attachment to outcomes, lack of focus, inconsistency, low self worth, low self esteem and sooooooo much more. These things can have a SERIOUS negative impact on your quality of life.
The painful experiences we’ve had create emotional triggers for us. A trigger is some type of stimuli that causes a strong emotional response/reaction within us. This emotional reaction is typically in response to situations or dynamics that feel similar to our original trauma(s)…When we’re triggered, our emotional reactions are usually more intense than the situation warrants, but it can be hard to decipher that because your internal emotional state is VERY REAL to you while you’re experiencing it.
It’s important to note that triggers cause an INVOLUNTARY response, it typically feels like anxiety, panic, fear or maybe sometimes even anger.
I’m going to give 5 examples of how these unresolved traumas may be playing themselves out in your life.
At the end of each example, I am going to highlight for you, the difference in results when you allow your triggers to go unchecked and run amuck…versus when you adopt Goddess (or God) Consciousness and start transforming your triggers into your greatest teachers!
We gon learn some alchemy today, can we do that?? we ready??
YES GOD!!!! Alright, now be sure to let me know in the comments if you can relate to any of these trigger examples, ok?
Trigger Example 1 – Criticism or Perceived Rejection
If the original trauma was a childhood where your parent’s love or approval was conditional and based on perfection or performance. This could create a deep fear of rejection or failure.
The emotional reaction you may have once you feel you’re being criticized could be the involuntary feelings of intense shame, anger, or sadness. You may lash out in defensiveness, you may argue, over-explain, or shut down and avoid further interaction.
The consequences of NOT knowing how to manage this trigger can lead to strained relationships, loss of opportunities, and a cycle of insecurity, where you may begin to avoids situations where you might face any type of critique.
The Goddess Consciousness approach to this trigger would be to pause and take a deep breath, which allows us to drop into our body, connect with our heart and first separate the criticism from your self-worth., (our ego’s have a tendency to be some of the biggest internal bullies). We would then assess the validity of the criticism (is it even true) and ultimately explore if and where you could use actually USE the feedback constructively and to develop our character and foster growth in creating more healthy relationships.
Trigger Example 2 – Abandonment or Fear of Being Left
If the original trauma was past experiences of being abandoned or neglected, especially by caregivers or romantic partners.
The emotional reaction you may have once you feel like you’ve been left could be panic, desperation, or unwarranted jealousy when a partner or loved one pulls away even slightly. You may feel that they are being abandoned again. You may become clingy, demanding, or accusatory, constantly seeking reassurance, or you may push the other person away to avoid being hurt.
The consequences of NOT knowing how to manage this trigger can be that your reactive behavior overwhelms or suffocates the partner, leading to actual abandonment, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The Goddess Consciousness approach to this trigger would be to pause and take a deep breath, which allows us to drop into our body, connect with our heart and acknowledge the underlying fear(s). Next, we would give ourself space and time to process our fear BEFORE ultimately having a conversations with our loved one expressing our authentic needs, which will PROMOTE healthy boundaries and emotional security.
Trigger Example 3 – Feeling Controlled or Micromanaged
If the original trauma or pain was childhood experiences of being overly controlled by strict or overbearing parents, leading to a deep-seated need for autonomy.
The emotional reaction you may have once you feel you’re being controlled or micromanaged could be frustration, anger, and rebellion against any form of perceived control, even if it’s actually relevant or maybe even helpful. You might reject advice, become defiant, or act impulsively to reassert your sense of autonomy.
The consequences of NOT knowing how to manage this trigger can lead to poor decision-making, strained workplace dynamics, sabotaging relationships and potential opportunities.
The Goddess Consciousness approach to this trigger would be to pause and take a deep breath, which allows us to drop into our body, connect with our heart, and take time to ground back into the understanding and truth that not all guidance is about control. Being able to accept helpful feedback improves relationships, decision-making and the ability to collaborate with others.
Trigger Example 4 – Being Ignored or Not Heard
If the original trauma was early experiences where your emotions, thoughts, or needs were consistently overlooked or ignored by caretakers or loved ones.
The emotional reaction you may have once you feel like you’re not being heard could be anger, frustration, or sadness. You might resort to raising your voice, interrupting, or disengage entirely from the conversation, feeling defeated or disrespected.
The consequences of NOT knowing how to manage this trigger can lead to further alienation, as other people may avoid engaging with you because they feel attacked, which leaves the issue unresolved, which again reinforces the original trauma and creates a self fulfilling prophecy.
The Goddess Consciousness approach to this trigger would be to pause and take a deep breath, which allows us to drop into our body, connect with our heart and take time to process before communicating anything. Once we are calm and relaxed, we can express the feeling of being unheard without attacking the other party. This opens the opportunity for our needs to be expressed (which in this case would be our need is to have our perspective considered and valued) This will foster a much more constructive dialogue where both parties feel acknowledged.
Trigger Example 5 – Loss of Control or Uncertainty
If the original trauma was a chaotic or unpredictable childhood where you felt powerless, which has now led to a deep need for control in your adult life.
The emotional reaction you may have once you feel uncertainty or a loss of control could be anxiety or panic when things don’t go according to plan, rigid or inflexible behavior. Overreacting by micromanaging, demanding certainty, or even freezing in decision-making due to fear of uncertainty.
The consequences of NOT knowing how to manage this trigger can lead to burnout, difficulty delegating tasks, and strained relationships in both personal and professional settings.
The Goddess Consciousness approach to this trigger would be to pause and take a deep breath, which allows us to drop into our body, connect with our heart and take time to accept that some uncertainty is part of life and to be expected. We could then be much more productive with our time focusing on what can be controlled, which can reduce stress and create more adaptable, flexible problem-solving approaches.
Again, don’t forget to comment and let me know which one of these you can relate to and how YOU manage yourself when you feel the trigger come up.
Something I live by is the that while our trauma(s) may not always be our fault, they are ALWAYS our responsibility to manage.
The perception that external circumstances dictate our inner thoughts, feelings and belief is actually false. As I just illustrated with those 5 trigger examples, we come ready-made with all of our trauma and automatic emotional reactions, which in turn, influence the external circumstance and ultimately what we manifest and experience
When you show up to life with all these unresolved subconscious trauma’s, they are secretly running the show!
Think of the Wizard of Oz…
Most people have it backwards and think their feelings and thoughts are IN RESPONSE to life’s circumstances. The reality is actually that life circumstances are in response to their feelings and thoughts.
Nervous System Context
This is why learning how to deprogram your involuntary response to triggers is the ONLY way to start manifesting different circumstances and conditions for yourself.
As I mentioned in the beginning of this video, I am going to be sharing a unique perspective that will help you become more self aware of yourself, especially when you’re triggered.
When emotional triggers occur, they activate the sympathetic nervous system (SNS), which is responsible for the “fight-or-flight” response. This response evolved to protect us from threats by increasing heart rate, releasing stress hormones (like adrenaline and cortisol), and causing rapid breathing. These physiological changes lead to feelings of panic, anxiety, and hyperarousal, as the body prepares to either confront or escape danger.
The parasympathetic nervous system (PNS) — the “rest-and-digest” system — helps bring the body back to a state of calm. It slows the heart rate, reduces stress hormones, and encourages deep, steady breathing, promoting a sense of ease, relief, and relaxation.
I know there’s a lot of talk about how what we manifest what we think about and we attract who we are, but I want to be a little more specific about this thing.
WE MANIFEST FROM OUR NERVOUS SYSTEM.
I want you to really ponder that for a moment, pause the video if you need to. Think about the fact that you manifest from the vibration of your nervous system. It DGAF what you SAYIN, what you truly FEELING?? You can’t hide that!
You could tell people until you’re blue in the face that you’re happy or you could be saying all the affirmations in the world..until you truly learn how to get into your Parasympathetic Nervous System WHILE YOU’RE TRIGGERED, you will continue to manifest from that fight or flight space, which is ultimately fear and will magnetize experiences that confirm your bias to live in fear. This happens through the Reticular Activating System, but that’s a whole different topic for a different video!
So, now for the GOOD PART!!!
A.C.E Framework
I am going to be talking about my ACE framework that is universal and can be applied to ANY situation, large or small, to help you come out of your heard and back into your power.
A.C.E is s acronym for Awareness, Clarity and Experience. I use this framework with my coaching clients and also in my daily life! I teach it to my children, friends.. I even taught it to my mama!
I will explain how to applying the A.C.E framework to your transform your triggers, your goals, your identity…ya WHOLE LIFE!!!
Alright, now we’re gonna run down the A.C.E framework and I’ll explain EXACTLY how to move through each pillar.
Starting with A in the A.C.E framework for awareness, the question prompt for this is “WHAT”S REALLY HOOOOOD” Like, what is going on inside me right now, what am I thinking, what I am feeling, how am i reacting? This is the place where we give ourselves the time and space to move from being the experiencer of emotions to the observer of emotions.
The first thing you should do is take 3 deep breaths and keep your mouth shut. This automatically brings us closer to that parasympathetic nervous system we just discussed. The “rest and digest” mode.
You don’t have to start meditating or anything like that (unless you want to and I HIGHLY Recommend that you do!) but just start by taking 3 deep breaths, keeping your mouth closed and relax.
Just relax for a minute.
Just calm yourself down with your breath.
Just pay attention to your breath and making sure it’s slow and intentional…you may even find you want to go beyond 3 deep breaths because it feels so good!
Next, in the A.C.E framework C for clarity and the prompt here is “How can I flip this script” pay attention to your mind, pay attention to your thoughts. Pay attention to what they’re saying, ask yourself if what they’re saying makes sense. Pay attention to your current script and also pay attention to HOW this current script has created this reaction in you.
Keep breathing, keep keeping your mouth shut and keep asking yourself and exploring if your thoughts make sense.
Lastly, the E in the A.C.E framework is for experience and the prompt here is “Delusions of Grandeur” This is where we actually identify what it is that we’d PREFER to be experiencing and reverse engineer our way to thoughts that will invoke those feelings or experience within us.
So, to summarize A.C.E in a nutshell,
Keep breathing, keep keeping your mouth shut and keep asking yourself and exploring if your thoughts make sense. And then, challenge yourself to completely flip the script and find thoughts that bring you peace and empowerment.
Conclusion
In conclusion:
- Your unresolved trauma an how it shows up in your nervous system response is the ultimate magnet for what you are attracting and continuing to experience.
- The only way to deprogram your trauma responses is to go internal, you CANNOT wait on external circumstances to be ideal for you to feel good. That will NEVER happen. Take control of what you have access to, which is your breath, your thoughts and your reactions. If you can start to consistently do this, your life will change tremendously in a very short period of time. The sky’s the limit once you get this down.
- If you’re interested in not only applying this ACE Framework to your triggers, but also as a tool to reinventyourself and unlocking your ultimate potential, my 8 Week Become Unrecognizable Coaching Cohort, begins on October 1st. Go ahead and apply through the link under this video or in the comments.
In this Cohort, we will be meeting daily and weekly to process and transform in a safe and intimate space designed for you to come out of your anxious mind and back into your divine feminine power.
We will be:
Learning the ACE Framework to heal and transform your life ( a priceless skillset!)
Getting Clear about our next best version
Identifying our individual H.I.T’s (High Impact Tasks)
Meeting weekly for framework education, accountability and reflection and regrouping
Access to a private community to interact and communicate daily for support, guidance and sharing wins.
Please feel free to reach out to me directly with any questions or clarification.
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YES GOD!
I hope you enjoy the rest of your day.
Sending lot of love!
Meg
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