How is this my fault?

This question can change your life as well as what you manifest moving forward.

When I had given birth to my 4th child as a single woman and was generally unhappy and unfulfilled I discovered steaming.

Yoni steaming was one of the catalysts that allowed me to connect back to my true essence… GOD. It allowed me to begin to release trauma and be vulnerable and honest with myself. It not only felt amazing but it started to high light my womb heart connection. It changed my life.

To this day, any situation I experience that is less than favorable for me, the first question I ask is….how is this my fault? what role did I play in this?

Life changes when accountability and ownership become a part of the equation.

This question enabled me to begin to do the deep healing and reprogramming of my own limiting beliefs that subsequently manifested me a successful business, amazing husband and beautiful life.

Yes God 🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽

What is currently happening in your life that you can change your approach to and change the outcome?

One of the first things I had to address was the resentment in my heart. I had to FORGIVE.

If you are having a hard time forgiving your parents or anyone in your life.. I highly recommend using the tools I personally used , which I’ve provided in our Forgiveness 101 Course, it’s changed lives.

I love you and I want to see you excel and exceed your wildest dreams.

With So Much Love,



“Strong Black Woman” no more!!!

I’m sure you’ve heard that phrase before.

I was raised to believe that it was noble, reverent and some badge of honor to constantly be “hustling”, “handling business”, “getting it out the mud” and “just doing it myself”.

For almost my whole life, I have been operating too much in my masculine energy.

It slides under the radar for so many of us because we’re born into situations that model these concepts. Our survival was literally dependent on the need to protect and provide for ourselves.

I’ve made a very radical decision about keeping up this unbalanced self concept, identify and image.


Honestly, it’s QUITE a big mindset adjustment. This trait has allowed me to have many great accomplishments in my life, however the more that I am unlearning and reflecting on my experiences I am realizing that I was almost insistent in making things harder than they needed to be.

I, like many of us, was engrained to believe that if you don’t have to struggle for it, it’s not worth having.

As I reflect, I realize that many of the manifestations I received were because I was operating in my femininity, without actually being conscious of doing so…

Some of the ways I have been unbalanced (more masculine) in my energy have been:

  1. Not accepting help with simple things (carrying bags, lifting heavy packages, etc)
  2. Being impatient and “doing it myself” versus being still and allowing things to happen in their own time
  3. Overthinking, over strategizing and being a perfectionist. Being critical of myself and others
  4. Being so much of an open book, allowing everyone around me to know exactly what I was thinking and how I was feeling.
  5. Stepping in and trying to “help” grown men with thing and by default robbing them of their innate and intrinsic need to pursue, conquer and solve. Standing in the way of their evolution and development.

This has truly been a mind blowing and life changing concept that I’ve been taking time to absorb, apply and express. If we’re connected on social media, you may have noticed that I’ve been a lot less active there. I’ve been taking inventory of the things I’ve no longer been available for. Some of those things are:

  1. Waisting time on activities I don’t enjoy
  2. Scrolling my life away
  3. Consuming content that invoke feelings that are not pleasant for me
  4. Being in spaces where I don’t feel valued and appreciated
  5. Stretching myself too thin because I don’t want to relinquish control

It’s my intention that this may be inspiring for you to take inventory and identify some of the ways or approaches that could stand a reevaluation.

I invite you to join me in June for the following virtual and in person events!

I look forward to connecting with you soon!

With So Much Love,



And the truth set me free…

I happened to be checking out the various upcoming holidays and I came across “Honesty Day” on April 30th. Did you know that was a thing? I had no idea!

To me, Honesty Day should be everyday

Honesty is something that can literally transform your life. Here’s a few ways it transformed in mine:

  1. Being honest with myself about how I truly felt about my life and affairs allowed me to get real with myself about what direction I needed to move in.
  2. Being honest with myself about my limiting beliefs allowed me to create affirmations that attest to my new expansive and abundant beliefs.
  3. Being honest (and setting boundaries) with the men in my life who didn’t embody the behaviors and characteristics of what I desired from a partner allowed me to make space for my husband to enter my life.
  4. Being honest with myself about the consequences of certain decisions and habits I was choosing allowed me to change the choices I was making.
  5. Being honest with myself about what truly made me happy allowed me to lean more into those things and let go of what I was doing for other silly reasons like fear of what people would think or feelings of obligation.

Honesty is a game changer. It’s the main ingredient in profound transformation. The truth truly does set you free.

Are you being honest with yourself and everyone in your life?

Are you not being completely honest because that would then require you to do something different? Something that doesn’t seem like it would be comfortable to you?

I want to encourage you to invest some time taking an inventory of the various parts of your life and seeing if any are candidates for being a bit more honest about…

Steaming and/or bathing is a great time to ponder these things.

I have created the discount code HONESTY in case you’d like to stock up or perhaps give the gift of womb and heart health to your mother or someone you care for this upcoming Mother’s Day on May 9th.

This Thursday is the Sip, Steam & Release session where we’re going to be doing an extra special activity for releasing what isn’t serving us, specifically limiting beliefs. It’s gonna be REALLY GOOD, I’m excited and hope you’ll join us!

Have an amazing day.

With So Much Love,



Success stories!

I first want to let you know how grateful I am for you, I pray for you daily. 

I have several success stories I’d like to share with you.. 

Firstly, I have perfected my body butter!!! What was previously known as Honey Butter has now evolved into Magical Mango Healing Cream! Slight tweak to the ratios and one deliciously smelling addition and we now have an INCREDIBLE, creamy, luscious, yummy smelling recipe that will have you glowing all day. They’ll be dropping on the website next week!


Here’s what one of my lovely client’s says about this product..

I also want to discuss the vision board I created last week at the virtual Sip, Steam & Manifest party because every single thing on it has come to fruition!!! I consider something to be fruitful as soon as I begins to receive evidence…

What’s wild is that some of them did manifest IMMEDIATELY!!!

Let me break it down..

3/2021 Virtual Vision Board

(see microphone in front of chairs)

I am speaking this weekend (3/21) at Cupcakes, Cocktails & Conversations. By the way, please join us if you can, it’s going to be AMAZING!!!) 

I am also speaking at both the Virtual Sip, Steam & Release Party (3/26) as well as the I Used To Spank My Kids Masterclass (3/25). (come through!!) 

(see woman with tons of brilliant ideas)

They have been pouring in!!! Like how I tweaked that butter recipe and created an incredible new product! That’s just the start! 

(see passport, map and camera)

This is going to sound made up and I didn’t even recognize it while it was happening. Yesterday I got a random opportunity to book two international family trips for a ridiculously low price. (Thank you GOD🙏🏽)

(see freezer full of breastmilk)

I went from contemplating switching to formula because I felt as though I couldn’t keep up with Justice to now having an overflow and actually freezing milk again!!! 

(see woman holding up certificate)

I have been receiving so many downloads about the completion of the Yes God Vaginal Steaming Certification!!!! Honestly, I’ve already done a lot of the work! (THANK YOU GOD!) 

(see sleeping baby)

Justice slept through the night for the first time last night. I was SO elated when I woke up to that realization!

I think you get the gist… this stuff works. It’s incredible. It’s happening faster and faster for me too, that’s the part that’s blowing my mind a bit. 

One more, I just randomly checked my google reviews on a whim and saw this!!!

GOD is good ya’ll. 

I hope you’re having a good week and that divine order is now established in your mind, bodies and affairs. 

Be sure to download the app for daily affirmations. 

With So Much Love, 



What’s on your vision board?

Hey Friend!

This Saturday is a new moon! Why is that important? Well, there are a few correlations. 

The new moon is the first of 4 primary phases the moon goes through. Waxing, Full, Waning, and New. 

The menstrual cycle is also broken into four phases: Follicular, Ovulatory, Luteal, and Menstrual. 

Each phase in its own context can be associated with the energy of the moon, I like to work with both. 

In this great article I came across, it mentioned that the new moon phase can be associated with releasing negative thinking habits. I also know from experience that the new moon is a fresh start to consider and get clear on what we’re looking to manifest over the next cycle or phase of our lives. For me personally, I love to write down my latest intentions. 

In an effort to get out in front of the upcoming new moon, we’re gathering tomorrow evening to create some accountability in our upcoming manifestations. We are creating visions boards, this can be done a number of different ways that I’d like to share with you. Whether you join us or not, it’s an excellent way to bring awareness to what it is you truly desire at this phase of your life. 

You can use digital images to:

  • Create a virtual vision board using or just 
  • Creating a folder in your phone or on your computer

You can also use physical images to:

  • Arrange on a poster board or piece of paper
  • Put on mirrors or walls to see consistently 

You can also choose to just simply write down what you’re looking to have or be, that works very well. 

I personally like to SEE what I’m desiring to experience. 

I’d love for you to join me tomorrow evening as we Sip, Steam & Manifestto create the vision(s) we have for ourselves. 

I am going to be using canva to actually have a virtual vision board that I can have at my fingertips at any time. I can also print it out and put it anywhere for a little reminder. (wallet, mirror, under a magnet on my fridge). We’re going to be steaming afterwards which is a great opportunity to just sit and meditate on what we’ve just defined as our next life experiences!

I am super excited about the wholesale orders that are coming in for herbs!!! I love being the Vaginal Steam Herb plug. YES GOD!

In other news, Justice is 3 months old and thriving! Divine order is now established in our minds, bodied and affairs! Here she is 😍  

I hope everyone is experiencing some good sunshine and deep breathing. 

With So Much Love, 



You know it’s all gonna work out right?

I hope you’re healthy and optimistic about your life.

This has been such a revelatory week for me. I have been really consistent about the practices that have held me DOWN time and time again, they seriously NEVER fail me. Thank you GOD.

Divine order is now established in our minds, bodies and affairs.

They’re so simple too, nothing requiring a lot of effort. What they require is my dedication to them, my consistency, my attention and my focus.

Divine order is now established in our minds, bodies and affairs.

I am looking forward to steaming today and tomorrow as we usher in this Virgo Full Moon energy urging us to find balance with work and service. This time can be revelatory and enlightening, if we choose.

I would love you to join me to steam, be sure to have your notifications turned on in the Yes God Wellness App and I’ll give you the heads up. Even if you can’t steam and want to just take some time to set intentions and honor your sacred space, please join me.

Divine order is now established in our minds, bodies and affairs.

This week in particular there have been some pretty “serious” life situations that have naturally “found” resolutions because…

Divine order is now established in our minds, bodies and affairs.

I’ve been being sure to take a few moments to quiet my mind and breathe along with obsessively affirming and redirecting every internal and external conversation. (kinda how I’m doing in this email)

Divine order is now established in our minds, bodies and affairs.

The OCD approach with affirmations has even been working for the people around me I’ve been sharing it with. I’ve gotten SEVERAL testimonies about how they have created unexpected abundance and resolution for folks. See below:

Divine order is now established in our minds, bodies and affairs.

Yes God Wellness is now offering wholesale white labeling of our herbal blends. Anyone can sell the blends under their own brand’s name.

If you’re desiring to, or already have an established wellness brand, you can now provide our time tested healing formulations to your community and create income for yourself as well.


Divine order is now established in our minds, bodies and affairs.

If you’d like more information please complete this form and the wholesale catalog will be emailed to you. 

Enjoy this glorious and divine day.

With So Much Love,


ps. I also send out affirmations daily on the Yes God Wellness App. Getchu some!


Happy V Day

Of course the V stands for something that rhymes with North Carolina… 😂

I hope that your day is a restful and relaxing one. Justice and I got a bit off our schedule today and slept in until 9am (normal wake up time is 7). I’m NOT complaining!

I am really excited to be getting massages today and also being doted on. My husband is REALLY romantic all the time so today is a day that I get extras and I’m ABOUT THIS LIFE ok?!

One of the things that struck me as I took a shower this morning was how much of a shame it is for folks to go through life unhappy, as if they have no control over it.

I can’t saw that I was ever an “unhappy” person, but I can admit that I wasn’t happy for other people all the time.

Sometimes I’d feel like “why does SHE get to….” or “how do THEY have…”. In all honesty I realize now that it was a spirit of jealousy, not outright, but more of a subtle feeling.

Valentines Day was one of those day’s where those feelings would come up for me, everyone posting their gifts and presents while I was single and lonely.

If this resonates with you I want you to know that it’s normal to feel this way. The way society is set up, we are intentionally placed and marketed to in a spirit of competition. The “best” this and “number 1” that.

It wasn’t until I learned how to be single and HAPPY that I truly began to feel genuine happiness for other people and their success.

I started courting myself, instead of waiting for someone else to buy me flowers, I started buying my own! Instead of waiting for someone else to pay attention to the little things about me, I started paying attention to my OWN details.

One of the things I used to do was envision the success of others as my own. That exercise would allow me to fully recognize what I’ve since learned about energy. Everyone IS you.

I also started to take inventory of the ways I WAS shown love and celebrated the heck out of those things, even if they were “platonic”.


How you feel towards one person, you feel towards everyone.

Just keep in mind that you can change your perspective and your feelings.

I love you so much. If you’re reading this email, you are already in the midst of fulfilled people and situations.

Start with you, Love you. Be your own valentine and before you know it, you’ll see it manifested in your life.

With So Much Love,


ps. The whole website is 22% off today, no code necessary.


I love you soooo much!

As I was fulfilling orders, I saw a familiar name and then noticed that this person had placed their 12th order!!!

I was brought to mind of all the incredible people I’ve connected with on this spiritual journey of mine that encompasses Yes God Wellness. 

I began remembering the early days of steaming locally in Durham from my home. 

I remembered the beautiful souls that saw value in what I was creating before I truly even saw the vision. 

I remember hosting pop-ups in DC, Brooklyn, Rochester, Queens, loading and unloading all the pots, herbs and chairs from my van. 

I remember the generosity and support shown in so many different ways. 

I remember the hugs, the tears, the laughter. 

I remember the growth. I am still growing. 

Growth never stops. 

I was truly overcome with gratitude to the point of tears. This journey of Yes God Wellness started as The Honey Pot and then transitioned into something much greater that my imagine could have ever conceived of. I am truly blessed and fortunate to be on this journey and have your accompaniment. 

I would love to be able to send each and every one of you a personal note and reminisce on the good times we’ve shared. Even if we’ve just recently connected on social media or you saw my van and decided to see what Vaginal Steaming is all about. 

I cherish every question, every testimonial, every meal, every friendship,  every comment, every email, every subscription, every conversation, every shout out, every referral. 


I am so honored and humbled and I truly do love you. 

I hope that your life is rich with Divine Substance and fulfilled through faith. 

There is currently 22% off the website no code necessary. 

I would love to connect with you on the Yes God Wellness App as we’re rolling out some exciting new communities there. Stay tuned!

With So Much Love, 



I used to be a Christian


When I tell you I was on fire for Jesus Christ, I mean I actually went to Divinity school because I thought it was the next logical decision in “becoming an evangelist”.

Yep, ya girl is technically two semesters shy of a Masters in Divinity.

Something very unexpected happened once I started studying the Bible. 

I began to get discouraged and even disappointed at what seemed like in the justification of rape, pillage and murder. Slavery and The Crusades were two devastating historical events that had manipulatively intertwined Christianity with their jaded perspective on the “Word of God”.

To me it felt like the religion was being used as justification for men to forcefully and violently conquer the world. 

I had come to feel like Christianity gave people an excuse to not be their best selves by putting responsibility on another man. You know the whole “Jesus saved me” thing.

It didn’t make sense to me that such a young religion could encompass all time. Like, a remote Asian monk alive well over 2021 years ago and never even heard of, let alone proclaimed Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior was going to hell? Nah. An unlikely story.

I’d also had some negative church experiences along with observing a bunch of hypocritical “Christian” behavior and scandal.

I decided that GOD was way to big for religion.

So, it comes great shock for me to share with you today that almost 15 years later I’ve been magnetized back to the word of God, through the Bible.

Don’t get me wrong I always knew that the bible was a source of profound words. Throughout my spiritual journey I’ve been referred back to it for wisdom and insight. Proverbs is my favorite book.

My favorite passage (thus far) is:

Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death.” The stakes are high. Your words can either speak life, or your words can speak death. Our tongues can build others up, or they can tear them down. An unchecked fire doubles in size every minute.

I came across some books by Florence Scovel Shinn, they are all scripture-based.

Do you know what the difference is that has me completely rethinking my entire belief system? 


I’ll share one of the most impactful perspective shifts that her writings on interpreting scripture had for me.

Shepherds and sheep. 🐑 

The sheep are likened the rational, chitchat thoughts of the conscious mind.

If you consider the way sheep move, they’re chaotic, in pacts, moving quickly and not really committed to a space nor a destination.  

Sheepish thoughts are really all different interpretations of fear, worry and lack. They race mindlessly through our heads with no true purpose or goal.

The shepherd of those sheep are the prompters found our sub-conscious mind. In the book “3 Magic Words” it’s referred to as the super-conscious. Sometimes I’ve seen it called God or Christ Consciousness. 

This consciousness assists us in creating what we impress upon it the most. If we’re entertaining the sheep that run through our mind then we are actually creating the fear worry and lack they represent. 

If we entertain positive images and phrases (through imagination and affirmations) we are also creating the same.

What are your default thoughts? What does the voice inside your mind say?

Observation is life changing and the use of affirmations from this perspective is crucial.

Similar to a shepherd who stands on the perimeter of a boundary to herd the sheep and prevent them from going off course, once you mindfully notice your mind telling you things that don’t feel good, you can begin repeating the affirmations you have in your toolbox.

Having shepherds (memorized desired affirmations) to go to when the sheep ( our critical and negative, whining and ungrateful sheepish thoughts) start to get out of control allows God’s divine will for your life to unfold. 

Our default sheepish mind is typically based on past negative experiences and dynamics that we do NOT want to repeat.

I’ve begun doing this for the past few days and I am already seeing shifts and opportunities that I wouldn’t have thought possible last week.


I wanted to share one of her audiobooks with you that I’ve listen to last with you because it has absolutely 100% given me a lot of clarity and change the way I look at life for the better.

On another note, a little birdie told me that Yes God Wellness will soon be offering in person steam services again along with a Virtual Steam Club. I’m excited to share the details once they all come to fruition!!!

I hope your Sunday is blessed and peaceful.

With So Much Love,



Life In Shambles…

Happy Day Yes God Family!

****Warning**** that the contents of this message may be triggering AND they may just help you change your life, DRASTICALLY. I hope no matter what, the result is a change for the good, even if it’s just reflection and gratitude.

I realize that in sharing what’s on my heart today I may lose some subscribers and I’m ok with that.

There have been several teachable moments over the past few days in my life and after reflection and meditation I realize what the root issue is.


I used to (and sometimes STILL DO) have this issue myself.

I remember being on the phone with a friend several years ago and discussing all of our pressing issues, the people we had issues with, the things we didn’t like about what had happened that day and other various complaints.

It seemed perfectly normal. We even laughed and made jokes mocking people and situations to “make light” of clear discontent. If I knew then what I knew now…

Last night when we arrived home after a relatively short but action packed grocery shopping trip with a newborn and two children. We had briefly stopped for some fast food (no judgement) because mama was NOT cooking. My son said “FINALLY we’re home” in a very whiny and irritated tone…

It was time for another teachable moment. I am very mindful of the ways in which I am train my children. My main priority is their (and subsequently my own) heart posture over all else.

I reminded my child of the car accident we witnessed on the way home and brought his attention to the fact that it could have been us. I brought his awareness to the possibility that it could be us in that ambulance with our van damaged beyond repair and that we could be on our way to a hospital right now instead of pulling up to a beautiful house, in a warm vehicle filled to the brim with yummy food (both for now and later), healthy bodies and a beautiful loving family dynamic.

I have witnessed so many people who are in perpetual cycles of discontent who “can’t seem to get right” in life no matter what they do.

I also witness that they are ALWAYS incessant complainers.

Here’s just a few common examples of UNGRATEFUL-ness (keep in mind that it doesn’t have to be an outward expression, just FEELING this way will magnetize lack to you):

  1. Looking in the mirror complaining about our bodies INSTEAD OF thanking GOD and being GRATEFUL for the ability to walk, see, hear, smell, touch taste.
  2. Constantly complaining about how unjust people, society or circumstances are INSTEAD OF thanking GOD and being GRATEFUL for the ability to serve and finding ways to do so consistently.
  3. Comparing ourselves to others and how we don’t have or are not where we want to be in life INSTEAD OF being present and consistent in our own journey, process and unfolding and celebrating life itself.
  4. Going out to eat or to any service based business and not tipping INSTEAD OF recognizing the time, energy and effort that was saved by having a person/people provide you with that service.
  5. Talking sh*t about people who aren’t doing the things we want INSTEAD OF being thankful for their presence, the lessons they’ve taught us and allowing them to live their life as we take full responsibility for the things we want to experience and all the other wonderful ways we’re blessed.
  6. Focusing on how we don’t have the “things” you want (new clothes, new car, new home) INSTEAD OF being overjoyed that you have things to wear, a place to sleep and ways to get around.
  7. Entertaining relationship dynamics that don’t make us feel loved and appreciated INSTEAD OF leaning into the people in our lives who love, support and show up for you consistently.
  8. Wanting to “give people a piece of their mind”,argue and be right INSTEAD OF resting in faith and belief that GOD is the ultimate judge of truth and that life will always balance itself out without the need for harsh energy to be injected.

I invite you to search your heart to see if you can relate to any of these. I know I can! In being honest enough to identify the places for improvement, guess what..we can improve!

I pray that today is filled with focus on all the amazing and wondrous things that your life contains.

With So Much Love,


ps. I did a thing and became an affiliate for the Kitara Love steam seat that was gifted to me by a dear friend. Check it out! You can use code “YesLove” for an additional $10 off as well


Unsubscribe | Update your profile | 2608 Erwin Road , Suite 148-173, Durham , NC 27705