Wow. This week has been emotional for me. Typically I do not comment on any social happenings but this has rocked me. The death of Ermias Ashghedom (better known as Nipsey Hussle) has shaken the… More
Happy 2019! I am very happy and excited to report that I was able to really crank it in gear and get the physical organization of my home completed for the New Year! My home has a completely different energy that is palpable upon entering. I have been successful in reclaiming my living space while also honoring my business and creating an effective management system of everything from storage, manufacturing, packaging and order fulfillment.
My kitchen pantry and cupboards are clean, clear and orderly. My counters are clear and I even made use of the goldmine of a Breville juicer as it is no longer overshadowed by appliances and pots that I was only holding onto for “sentimental value”. My living room is spacious and light, my bedroom is peaceful, my office is productive and even the children’s room has managed to retain some semblance of order.
My whole life is benefitting from this new energy along with my intended daily routines and regimens. I have been a lot more consistent with my morning routines, 1st quarter projects and fitness routines. I’ve also made time for myself to steam and release any remnants of energetic things that are no longer serving me.
As I was hitting the treadmill at Orange Theory Fitness, the thought of someone who is no longer in my current life’s experience popped into my mind and I immediately noticed myself projecting some extremely critical and judgmental thoughts. I was mindful of how it made me feel, and how it was an overall lower vibration. It was like I got an immediate insight that I had still not entirely released that particular dynamic and needed to do so (as soon as possible). I decided in that moment that I would make it a priority to write this person a letter.
Letter writing is a tool that I have been using for about two years now and the results have been astounding. I learned through my own personal development quest that when you write letters, not only do you create a time and space to flesh out your own feelings/perspectives on the dynamic, but that you also energetically are expressing yourself and the Universe in all it’s divine wisdom is able to communicate the sentiment of your deepest feelings to that particular person. I did this activity several times with my own father. I really allowed myself to release some of the pent up resentment, rage, anger, pain and then eventually pity and compassion I felt for him. It took a few letters, but I am grateful to say that I have now released what used to be an immediate disgusted reaction to the thought or mention of him.
After my most recent letter of release (or as I call them “come clean letters”) he contacted me about 4 months later to make amends (in his own way) and I immediately perceived that as confirmation that he had received the underlying energy (which was ultimately forgiveness) that I had extended to him.
After having written this most recent letter, I really gained a lot of insight. The most revelatory of them, was that I made a lot choices (including not truly forgiving my own self) that kept me tied to the turmoil that I associated with the dynamic. A lot of times we want to “just move on” from painful things, however that usually is the equivalent of suppressing the pain, which will only result in it being expressed in ways which we don’t have much conscious control. The only want to truly release pain is to allow it. There is a fine line between dwelling in pain and objectively viewing and perceiving the universal context within which it was created. Hurt people hurt people and anyone who has hurt me, I know without a shadow of a doubt, is also hurting.
My approach to life is that I allow myself to be a free space for the full potential of divine expression to flow through me. Anything that makes me feel other than blissful or satisfied and causes my overall vibration to lower, us up for examination. When it involves another person, writing it out is a very powerful tool. I have helped a lot of my clients use this tool and we will be exploring this with more depth in Transformation Period, our new personal development business. Yes God!
With So Much Love,
I hope this content is finding you with an open mind and heart. I wanted to share some of my recent experiences and revelations around organizing my home, business and mind.
I had been feeling an energetic “push” if you will, to really buckle down over the past few weeks. I am the type of person who typically has about 20-30 projects swirling around in my mind at any given time. As you can imagine, that’s quite a bit of information to keep track of. Admittedly I was becoming frustrated with myself because I know that these ideas and projects are really dope, however I was not really equipping myself to follow through and execute on a good chunk of them.
Fed up, I decided that I really needed to find some type of system to apply that would create the space and opportunity to be able to really begin making some tangible headway. The first step was to pull everything out and put them in a centralized place to be able to further evaluate, analyze and categorize. I needed to physically see all of the things that my mind had been scattering itself trying to keep track of.
Once I took an inventory of what I was holding on to, I was in a much better position to determine what the next steps (if any) needed to be taken. YES GOD! The next step was to break down my brain dump into three categories. The ones I chose were routines, tasks and projects. Routines are the things that I desire to be a consistent (daily, weekly) part of my life. These are things like exercise, morning routing, meditation, healthy eating etc. Tasks are things that can be done with a focused effort within a few hours. Projects are things that require a series of tasks to complete. I had a previous issue of confusing projects with tasks when in fact projects have many tasks involved. I also had the habit of creating really unrealistic timeframes on the things which I wanted to complete, which left me feeling depleted, overwhelmed and like a failure.
I am so pleased to report that I knocked off three main projects already within one week of doing this practice! I re-organized my room, my garage (my warehouse), purged the children’s toys and today I will be tackling the kitchen and remaining spaces in my home. What I realized during the organization of physical spaces was so profound and really in alignment with my earlier brain dump activity. The things that we are storing (mentally or physically) need to come out in the open so we can evaluate them. I found so many things that I could re-purpose and I also found a lot of things that really no longer line up with the vision that I currently have for my life. This reinforced to my why it is so important to really take the time to visualize what your ideal life looks like. Things that were ideal to me last year are no longer ideal to me today. Things that I want to do on a day to day basis have evolved and grown.
The main takeaways from these experiences are:
- Define what it is that you want to do with your life, space, business, self
- Pull out what it is that you do have or are being so you can do an honest evaluation on what is, isn’t or could be serving you moving forward.
- Create a system that works for you that will enable you to take bite sized steps towards realizing your goals and vision.
I hope this helps you in some way! Happy New Year!
As many of you know I have been, and am now even more intensely studying Universal Law, specifically the Law of Attraction. I took an amazing Archery class yesterday and after watching the footage, I was so inspired and compelled to create this very powerful analogy.
Something inside of me knew that I would take to archery like a natural. I am born under the Sun Sign of Sagittarius and besides that, I have always been very athletic. Once the technique was explained and showed to me once, I never missed the target. After watching the video of my performance, I realized something. Archery is EXACTLY like the law of attraction and therefore life itself. The arrow is us, and we have the power to direct ourselves because the (divine) power, force and momentum is never a question. We are always in a perpetual state of propelling forward, this is in our divine nature, but the variable is the direction of our propel. Had I pointed my aim at the building behind me, or the person next to me, not only would I not have hit my target, but I could have really harmed someone else in the process.
This sounds so simple and obvious in these terms, however we do this with our attention and focus all the time. We think and say “I really want a great partner” but then we lament over previous experiences that hurt us or we say things like “all men/woman are the same”. We want to manifest more currency in our lives but then we say “Oh I can’t afford that…”. We want to release weight but then we tell ourselves when we look in the mirror “Oh my God I’m so fat”. We will always go where our attention is focused and guided. I have been making it a practice to ONLY ponder uplifting and prosperous thoughts. It takes awareness and intention. Even in the face of contrast, I say to myself “all things are working out for my ultimate good”
I challenge us as we move about our day today to be mindful of the internal self-talk and assess if it’s aiming in the direction of your true desires.
With So Much Love,
I wanted to take some time to connect and discuss the recent happenings in my business. As a rule of thumb, transparency in all areas, especially emotional processing has been and always will be my primary business model. Honey Principles of Transformation (The Acronym which created The Honey Pot) is something that is innate within me and also the thing which I have realized allows me to offer value to those whom I come into contact with.
With that being said! The Honey Pot is going away…. however, as is typical with life, something bigger, better and more expansive is being born in it’s place. As many of you know, my initial slogan began as “Yeeeesssss!” There were many catalysts that transformed “Yes” into “Yes God”
In retrospect, once I began to dissociate with a lack mindset (struggle, over-focus on racial/gender inequality, focus on what I was lacking versus what I had available in plain sight at my disposal) and all people, places and things that exemplified those things, I was brought to a place of extreme humility, gratitude and clarity. Once I shifted my perspective and focused on how I could serve and what I could give versus what I thought society (or even God) owed me; brilliant (divine) ideas, opportunities and prosperity began to flood into my life.
I understand that the term GOD is subjective and means different things to different people. For the sake of this article, I am referring to the Creator, Most High, Allah, Divine Source and/or the Universe. I also know that my use of this term deters and pushes some individuals away from me and my business…… YES GOD!
God became my focal point, the center of my universe, and my intentions were focused on how to be an example of God’s divine intelligence. I was instantly humbled and overwhelmed with gratitude each and everyday when I allowed myself to see what was going divinely right. This is not to say that I am ignorant to the ills of the world, however I know that the best (and only) way that I can affect change is to become the change I want to see.
Business has been thriving, growing and expanding rapidly. Between fulfilling orders, expanding the product lines, servicing clients, traveling for events, speaking engagements, vending, developing educational programs and increasing consultations, we have managed to catch the attention of some very large brands. Last weekend I received a certified letter from a company that cited Trademark Infringement for my business name in the specific market/industry (feminine wellness) that I serve. When the mailman came and rang the doorbell and I saw the letter versus the typical package, my intuition immediately knew what it was. I had attempted to mitigate this issue by adding the word “Method” to the end of my business name early on, however the words “Honey Pot” have been trademarked.
I observed my anxiety start to set in, however because of my due diligence and practice of perspective alchemy, I immediately asked myself “what amazing opportunities can possibly result from this”? I thought briefly about arguing semantics, getting into a back and forth legal battle over the specifics and promptly decided that, you know what? They can have it! The name of my company isn’t what makes me successful, it’s the energy I put into it, the value that I offer people, the results that they receive by investing into my products and services. It was a relatively quick decision that took me about 10 minutes after mulling it over. I thought to myself “what can I name my company that truly represents where I am going with my brand?” I then opened my facebook page almost on auto pilot and saw my profile picture which is a picture of me with my “Yes God” earrings on. There was a sense of calm knowing that came over me. It was settled. Yes God Wellness was born. (Really God? You just bogarded like that? LOL!)
I have shared this widely on my social media platforms, however I know that not all of us utilize social media frequently so I wanted to be sure to communicate the changes going forward so when you see future communication coming from Yes God Wellness, you weren’t confused. I am so appreciative of all of the support, love and feedback I have received thus far and it is my intention to carry this message, brand and company far and wide.
I hope everyone is having an amazing Friday! YES GOD!
With So Much Love,
Yes God Wellness
I send love, peace and blessings to every individual who reads this content. Today, I am going to be discussing the energetic exchange and spiritual side of sex. Ooooo… LOL.
Let’s talk about sex baby! This topic has been on my mind for years and years, I remember watching Juanita Bynum’s “No More Sheets” and learning of “soul ties” over 10 years ago. Today, I have such a deeper appreciation for the appropriate context upon which to apply this principle to life. (it’s not JUST about sexual relations, but sex definitely creates a much closer connection and tie to an individual’s energy.
In stepping into entrepreneurship, I am being afforded the opportunity to cross paths with literally thousands of women. I have developed a deeper compassion for the emotional and physical distress we all experience at some point in our lives. I hear, and have also experienced my fair share of emotional pain around romantic, sexual relationships. What I have begun to realize is that many times we suppress these heartbreaks and pain in an attempt to “move on” and carry on with life. The subtly obvious resentment, frustration, pessimism around relationships (even jokingly) illustrates that we are in fact, NOT over it. Actually, it winds up holding us hostage, imprisoned and therefore highly susceptible to continue to attract dynamics which produce the same emotions.
Another discovery which has become crystal clear is that emotional/energetic imbalances in our womb, can and will manifest into physical imbalances. This is why things become chronic even after being “treated” and even surgically removed. It’s worth pondering what your heart and womb is “not over” yet. Being authentic and honest with yourself is crucial to free yourself both emotionally and physically.
I am going to tell my own personal story about a time when I literally felt the sexual energy in my womb following a sexual encounter. This dynamic/relationship was toxic and I knew it. I allowed and made the choice to justify my decision of entertaining him. I had known intuitively and felt in my gut and heart that the love wasn’t healthy or even genuine. I let my desire for companionship and “intimacy” override my common sense, and truthfully, I still held onto a lot of pain from previous experiences which is precisely the point of this article. One evening after a late night booty call, as I was driving home, I felt what I can only describe as what felt like a claw, reaching up from my womb up into my chest as if it was attempting to climb my chakras. That seriously freaked me out and was one of the last times I was intimate with him. I did a lot of personal development work after that relationship to really dig into the roots of what attracted what was in retrospect, a horrific scenario.
Pain begets pain, it’s crucial to take intentional action to clear our physical and energetic temple. The womb has been long regarded as the most divine organ because it not creates, but houses and develops human life. This is an indisputable fact.
This is why womb health and detoxification is so important. Steaming offers a wonderful opportunity to release and reveal those pains and tender spots we’ve been pushing deeper and deeper into our subconscious. Not only to the physical imbalances begin to decrease, the emotional ones begin to “escape” with the assistance of all the earthly healing elements. (Fire, Water, Air, Earth and Energy)
Thank you for taking time to read.
With So Much Love,
The Honey Pot
Warning – This post may be triggering for some. I will be discussing abortion and my own experiences.
This has come up quite a bit for me lately in my client sessions and one of the main themes I see tied to it is guilt. Guilt happens to be a perception/emotion that haunts us way after whatever experience that led us to feel guilt in the first place. It’s really a plague that has many of us walking around feeling regret and despair over things that we have no control over, which can be uber disappointing and depressing.
I used to feel a lot of guilt, depression and sadness over the abortion(s) I decided to have over my lifetime. I would go back and forth, over and under, around and through the different possible “karmic” consequences that may or may not have been a direct correlation to this decision. I beat myself up, pretty badly. I have since noticed that I have a really uncanny ability to drive my own self nuts in my mind through self-talk that is critical, judgmental, unforgiving and even cruel.
There were a few different things I did to allow myself to heal from this deep rooted pain, regret, remorse and guilt I carried around for years, allowing it to overshadow my accomplishments and make me feel inferior, as if bad things were “destined” to happen to me. The first thing I did was really step back and become observant of my self talk ( hint, that’s always a good place to start when looking to heal any emotional pain). I also became the observer from what I like to call a “zoomed out” vantage point. I zoom out and take into consideration all factors in my decision and begin to cut myself slack because we always make decisions based on what we perceive is the best possible next step for our current situation and dynamics. With truly knowing and understanding that, compassion can soften the sharp and rigidity of the guilt, shame and regret. I had a whole script around how the relationship from which the child was conceived had turned south due to my decision (when in reality it already was south which was part of the reason for my decision).
The next thing I did was to give myself permission to fully grieve the loss of the life that I had conceived. My reasons for deciding the terminate the pregnancies were valid (and ANY REASON IS), however that did not mean that I was exempt from permission to process my emotions around it in a healthy and empowering manner.
I read some something on how to create a release ritual for my unborn children. It involved actually opening up a dialogue and communicating my emotions around the decision. It also involved naming the child(ren) and truly having a heart to heart conversation. This was highly therapeutic for me because it allowed me to give them identities….names, genders and ages. I wrote to them and then took those letters to a body of water, set them on fire and then set the fiery memorandum afloat in the water. I have since learned and come to know that we as human beings truly do not have the ability to “kill” anyone. We may have the ability to harm and destroy the physical body, but we do NOT have the ability to harm nor destroy any energetic life force. Meaning, even when a person is killed, their energy and spirit live on infinitely and are reborn through another portal. I know this may be a controversial subject and I risk losing some of my readers due to this brazen position, and that’s alright This writing is intended to reach and help any sisters who may be carrying around guilt and baggage for similar decision(s)
I am here to let you know that you are forgiven, GOD forgives you and you ought to forgive yourself, because your decision was the best one you had to make at the time. This is something that is VERY common amongst women and is rarely spoken about openly. We have the right to make decisions about our bodies and reproductive health. We have the right to decide that the consequences outweigh the risk. We have the right to choose ourselves before another person. We even have the right to make mistakes and not judge ourselves for the rest of our lives. Everyone has made mistakes that caused them remorse and/or regret. It’s in the giving of permission of self to truly go and process that remorse and/or regret in which we free ourselves from the inner judgement and criticism. Once we are free from the bondage we hold ourselves to within, nothing or no one without can keep us tied to shame or guilt.
I hope this message touched you in a positive, affirming and empowering way.
With So Much Love,
The Honey Pot