Hola Honey! I’m back on the mainland and ready to get home to do my Sunday routine to prep for the week. I love using this day to really get clear about how I want… More
When I began to evaluate and approach my life through more loving decisions about what I was consuming, (eating, listening to, putting on my skin, watching and thinking) my entire life began to shift and evolve. Through exploring different approaches to physical (and cellular) nourishment, it wasn’t long before I came across the concept of Yoni steaming. I was looking to detoxify and cleanse my sacred space after the birth of my last daughter. What I didn’t realize is that I had tapped into a tool that would allow me to not only detoxify my physical space, but the energetic space as well.
Initially, I was just looking to “tighten back up” after childbirth, I didn’t realize all of the other healing effects Yoni (vaginal) steaming would have on my life. Energetically, it provided a modality for me to release pent-up emotions, suppressed pain and outdated beliefs. On one hand it felt much more enriching and fulfilling, while on the other it felt painful and lonely. I was tightening up alright! Certain dynamics felt tumultuous, challenging and exhausting. But, that’s what can typically be expected with authentic evolution. Holistic healing won’t always feel fun, liberating or rejuvenating. I have found that there is always a bit of chaos preceding intense transformation.
Besides the physical Honey Pot, I am also referring to my “Honest Principles of Transformation”, by which I strive and intend to approach the opportunity , that is my life. Since I am beginning to identify what my authentic life looks like, it makes it easier to hold firm to my boundaries and commitments because I know that they cumulatively come together to create the quality of my life experiences.
Sometimes, society can judge our commitment to embrace and empower ourselves, especially in relation to having an intimate connection to our own sexuality and reproductive wellness. There is a very real and powerful connection between holistic health and mindful perspectives around sex, nudity, sensuality and spirituality.
When I think of the many interconnected transitions, I still see a common theme. How we treat ourselves (and specifically our womb) really shows up in what we manifest in our lives. If we make loving decisions about what we nourish our sacred spaces with (products we expose to it, foods we eat, people we allow access to) and whom we allow to have direct physical access to it, we will find a more loving status quo being implemented by default. We will see a lot of physical reproductive health issues be released and experience an up-level in our mental, emotional, psychological and spiritual abundance.
This week has been emotional for me. Typically I do not comment on any social happenings but this has rocked me. The death of Ermias Ashghedom (better known as Nipsey Hussle) has shaken the world. If you didn’t know who he was before, you likely know who he is now. If you don’t, I’ll allow you the opportunity of doing your own research.
I want to take a moment to share the inspiration that this loss has revitalized within me. I too, have suffered great personal loss through death. On November 11, 2006, my eldest son’s father, Michael Adams, was brutally murdered at the age of 27, when our son was just 8 years old. Immediately following these losses I questioned GOD. Admittedly, I was angry, hurt, sad, shocked. I even felt that I was with God. I didn’t get it yet. I didn’t understand. I didn’t realize that I was being called to appreciate and cherish the times I had with my loved ones. I was focused on the fact that I no longer had them.
12 years later (a relatively short timeframe) I lost my older brother (best friend and confidante) Michael Porter to terminal pancreatic cancer on January 8, 2015. I was a bit further into my spiritual evolution so I was able to grasp the gratitude in even being able to know and experience him, but, I was still sad and hurt that this person whom I had grown used to communicating with on a daily basis was no longer here with me on the physical plane.
In retrospect, it took me several years and experiences later to really understand and realize the great blessing and gift I had been given in the actual experience of being able to love so deeply. The magnitude of my pain matched the magnitude of love that I had been capable of feeling. What a blessing! What an incredible and wonderful experience to have been able to have.
The celebration ceremony that was held in Nipsey’s honor was humbling, breath-taking and so wonderful. His mother was such a beacon of perspective alchemy for the world to witness. I was so overjoyed to watch and listen to the very intentional and whole perspective she expressed. We are divine, we are whole. YES GOD!!!!! The energetic shift that Nipsey’s ascension has created is so beautiful to watch. It also now holds humanity to a higher standard. Although I felt triggered initially about my loss, it has fostered a much greater appreciation and calling to truly walk unapologetically in my purpose.
Hoping it’s had similar effects on you.
With So Much Love,
Greetings Beautiful Beings,
Have you ever had the feeling that you weren’t living up to your highest potential?
Recently I’ve really felt a push to examine myself. Yes, I always prefer to examine myself but I mean REALLY examine myself and the roots of how and why I hold myself back in certain areas of my life. Back at the end of 2018 I did a massive cleaning out of my physical space, got rid of lots of things and was able to re-purpose other things that I had forgotten that I owned!
It’s like something happened internally once I really got a handle of my external environment. An internal desire began to grow in regards to doing a massive clean out of my heart and mind. I wanted to take inventory of all the things that needed to be “gotten rid of” and also things that could be re-purposed for a better quality of life and inner peace.
I realized that I had several addictions that needed to be addressed. Among the list are/were: procrastination, social media, distractions and probably the most ingrained and long-standing addiction…..FOOD (sugar, carbs, comfort foods)
I have done social media “fasts” in the past where I determined to “only spend a certain amount of time” on social media per day (which proved VERY difficult), so I knew that it was something that needed more a intentional and strategic approach. It’s kind of a love/hate relationship since I use it to promote and advertise my business, but in reality I was spending way more time just mindlessly scrolling than actually engaging in bringing value to my potential clients.
The next thing I’ve been examining is my relationship with food. I notice that I typically eat for taste and to “enjoy” the experience of pleasure. I definitely enjoy lots of “healthy” foods but I also really enjoy a lot of unhealthy foods as well. I began by starting to intermittently fast between the hours of 1-7PM and then I pushed my comfort zone to one meal a day. Then, I felt a push to do a fast from food for spiritual reasons. Once I began to look into and research the amazing benefits of prolonged fasting I was blown away!
Fasting has been used for centuries to heal many imbalances in the physical body along with making space spiritually for God to perform miracles. The bible is full of stories that illustrate this. (Esther 4-5, Esther 9, Jonah 3, Matthew 4, Matthew 6, Ezra 8, Nehemiah 1, 1 Kings 19, Exodus 34, Acts 9, Act 13, Acts 14, Isaiah 58, Mark 9 & Daniel 1 just to name a few, lol)
I did a 7 day water fast from 3/22/19 – 3/29/19. My primary motivation for fasting initially was to experience miracles in some personal family situations, along with increase in business and other areas, but the whopping 14 pounds I released definitely was an awesome silver lining. Let me be clear this fast was NOT about losing weight, but more about healing and preventing disease. Enabling my body to take a rest from digesting new food and provide the opportunity to go back through and process out all the toxins (and nutrients) being stored in fat cells. There are tons of resources but one of my favorites is the The Essene Science of Fasting.
What I realized during my fast and after I began to eat again is how much my emotional state affected my food choices. I asked the question a few days ago on Instagram what folks food addictions were. Many people chimed in and I want all of us to really take a moment to think about what we are sacrificing due to our ingrained habit of emotion suppression through food. For me, it’s clarity of mind, my ideal body and a sense of accomplishment. When I eat “good food” that is typically rich and/or sweet, I feel tired afterwards, and it begins a downward spiral. Of course this is just my own personal experience but I wanted to share it with you in hopes that you can gain some insight, inspiration and/or motivation.
Greetings beautiful beings!
Valentine’s Day is approaching and I know that this can be a very sensitive and triggering time. I have spoken to many clients who have expressed pain, resentment and an overall sentiment of “failure” around relationships (romantic and otherwise). I have spent some time pondering this and wanted to share some of my own thought and perspectives around pain, grief and loss. (I have and still do experience my fair share).
I wanted to share some ways in which I have been able to process and manage my own feelings around pain, grief, loss and disappointment. I have been broadcasting live on my IG page for the past two days at 11:11am EST and will do so tomorrow (Monday) as well as a part of my “Clean Heart, Period” series (which I am going to re-do as we’ve been experiencing some technical difficulties…I’ll keep you posted on when) I shared that one of the best ways that I have been able to work through and release pain is to face it. Actually allowing myself the time and space to revisit my painful experiences (notice revisit, NOT relive) with the intention and position of of being the observer. Yes, sometimes it feels difficult and I don’t want to “be bothered” with drudging up old pain, however I have learned that what isn’t revealed can’t really be healed and ironically, we continue to relive and create similar dynamics until we are willing to blow the lid off and look at those things square and direct. One practical way that I revisit and release is through letter writing. Please refer to my last post about it here.
Another way that I dismantle pain’s hold on me, is to consistently and frequently keep myself in a state of gratitude. I mean little things…like “thank you God for allowing me to arrive safely to all my errands today, I appreciate that I have a roof over my head, I am so grateful I can breathe unassisted”. While these things may sound trivial, it is really important to observe and acknowledge all the ways in which our lives are truly blessed, because trust and believe that one glitch in the matrix can change these things and we don’t want to “need” catastrophe to happen to appreciate being able to pick up a phone and read an email.
I want to take a moment to affirm you. You are enough, you have enough and you are loved enough. I have been looking myself in the eye each morning (in my bathroom mirror) and telling myself that. ” I am enough, I have enough and I am loved enough”. I hope this message has reached and helped someone. I intend to send a few more love notes throughout this week and share some more tools that have and are working for me.
I hope we all have a fantastic week and remember, when we fill our own love cup, we have enough to share and if/when any external situation happens, we have enough of our own supply to be independent of needing anyone else to “love” or “validate” us. What’s even more amazing is that when we truly, deeply love ourselves we magnetize others who do the same.
With so much love,
Happy 2019! I am very happy and excited to report that I was able to really crank it in gear and get the physical organization of my home completed for the New Year! My home has a completely different energy that is palpable upon entering. I have been successful in reclaiming my living space while also honoring my business and creating an effective management system of everything from storage, manufacturing, packaging and order fulfillment.
My kitchen pantry and cupboards are clean, clear and orderly. My counters are clear and I even made use of the goldmine of a Breville juicer as it is no longer overshadowed by appliances and pots that I was only holding onto for “sentimental value”. My living room is spacious and light, my bedroom is peaceful, my office is productive and even the children’s room has managed to retain some semblance of order.
My whole life is benefitting from this new energy along with my intended daily routines and regimens. I have been a lot more consistent with my morning routines, 1st quarter projects and fitness routines. I’ve also made time for myself to steam and release any remnants of energetic things that are no longer serving me.
As I was hitting the treadmill at Orange Theory Fitness, the thought of someone who is no longer in my current life’s experience popped into my mind and I immediately noticed myself projecting some extremely critical and judgmental thoughts. I was mindful of how it made me feel, and how it was an overall lower vibration. It was like I got an immediate insight that I had still not entirely released that particular dynamic and needed to do so (as soon as possible). I decided in that moment that I would make it a priority to write this person a letter.
Letter writing is a tool that I have been using for about two years now and the results have been astounding. I learned through my own personal development quest that when you write letters, not only do you create a time and space to flesh out your own feelings/perspectives on the dynamic, but that you also energetically are expressing yourself and the Universe in all it’s divine wisdom is able to communicate the sentiment of your deepest feelings to that particular person. I did this activity several times with my own father. I really allowed myself to release some of the pent up resentment, rage, anger, pain and then eventually pity and compassion I felt for him. It took a few letters, but I am grateful to say that I have now released what used to be an immediate disgusted reaction to the thought or mention of him.
After my most recent letter of release (or as I call them “come clean letters”) he contacted me about 4 months later to make amends (in his own way) and I immediately perceived that as confirmation that he had received the underlying energy (which was ultimately forgiveness) that I had extended to him.
After having written this most recent letter, I really gained a lot of insight. The most revelatory of them, was that I made a lot choices (including not truly forgiving my own self) that kept me tied to the turmoil that I associated with the dynamic. A lot of times we want to “just move on” from painful things, however that usually is the equivalent of suppressing the pain, which will only result in it being expressed in ways which we don’t have much conscious control. The only want to truly release pain is to allow it. There is a fine line between dwelling in pain and objectively viewing and perceiving the universal context within which it was created. Hurt people hurt people and anyone who has hurt me, I know without a shadow of a doubt, is also hurting.
My approach to life is that I allow myself to be a free space for the full potential of divine expression to flow through me. Anything that makes me feel other than blissful or satisfied and causes my overall vibration to lower, us up for examination. When it involves another person, writing it out is a very powerful tool. I have helped a lot of my clients use this tool and we will be exploring this with more depth in Transformation Period, our new personal development business. Yes God!
With So Much Love,
I hope this content is finding you with an open mind and heart. I wanted to share some of my recent experiences and revelations around organizing my home, business and mind.
I had been feeling an energetic “push” if you will, to really buckle down over the past few weeks. I am the type of person who typically has about 20-30 projects swirling around in my mind at any given time. As you can imagine, that’s quite a bit of information to keep track of. Admittedly I was becoming frustrated with myself because I know that these ideas and projects are really dope, however I was not really equipping myself to follow through and execute on a good chunk of them.
Fed up, I decided that I really needed to find some type of system to apply that would create the space and opportunity to be able to really begin making some tangible headway. The first step was to pull everything out and put them in a centralized place to be able to further evaluate, analyze and categorize. I needed to physically see all of the things that my mind had been scattering itself trying to keep track of.
Once I took an inventory of what I was holding on to, I was in a much better position to determine what the next steps (if any) needed to be taken. YES GOD! The next step was to break down my brain dump into three categories. The ones I chose were routines, tasks and projects. Routines are the things that I desire to be a consistent (daily, weekly) part of my life. These are things like exercise, morning routing, meditation, healthy eating etc. Tasks are things that can be done with a focused effort within a few hours. Projects are things that require a series of tasks to complete. I had a previous issue of confusing projects with tasks when in fact projects have many tasks involved. I also had the habit of creating really unrealistic timeframes on the things which I wanted to complete, which left me feeling depleted, overwhelmed and like a failure.
I am so pleased to report that I knocked off three main projects already within one week of doing this practice! I re-organized my room, my garage (my warehouse), purged the children’s toys and today I will be tackling the kitchen and remaining spaces in my home. What I realized during the organization of physical spaces was so profound and really in alignment with my earlier brain dump activity. The things that we are storing (mentally or physically) need to come out in the open so we can evaluate them. I found so many things that I could re-purpose and I also found a lot of things that really no longer line up with the vision that I currently have for my life. This reinforced to my why it is so important to really take the time to visualize what your ideal life looks like. Things that were ideal to me last year are no longer ideal to me today. Things that I want to do on a day to day basis have evolved and grown.
The main takeaways from these experiences are:
- Define what it is that you want to do with your life, space, business, self
- Pull out what it is that you do have or are being so you can do an honest evaluation on what is, isn’t or could be serving you moving forward.
- Create a system that works for you that will enable you to take bite sized steps towards realizing your goals and vision.
I hope this helps you in some way! Happy New Year!
As many of you know I have been, and am now even more intensely studying Universal Law, specifically the Law of Attraction. I took an amazing Archery class yesterday and after watching the footage, I was so inspired and compelled to create this very powerful analogy.
Something inside of me knew that I would take to archery like a natural. I am born under the Sun Sign of Sagittarius and besides that, I have always been very athletic. Once the technique was explained and showed to me once, I never missed the target. After watching the video of my performance, I realized something. Archery is EXACTLY like the law of attraction and therefore life itself. The arrow is us, and we have the power to direct ourselves because the (divine) power, force and momentum is never a question. We are always in a perpetual state of propelling forward, this is in our divine nature, but the variable is the direction of our propel. Had I pointed my aim at the building behind me, or the person next to me, not only would I not have hit my target, but I could have really harmed someone else in the process.
This sounds so simple and obvious in these terms, however we do this with our attention and focus all the time. We think and say “I really want a great partner” but then we lament over previous experiences that hurt us or we say things like “all men/woman are the same”. We want to manifest more currency in our lives but then we say “Oh I can’t afford that…”. We want to release weight but then we tell ourselves when we look in the mirror “Oh my God I’m so fat”. We will always go where our attention is focused and guided. I have been making it a practice to ONLY ponder uplifting and prosperous thoughts. It takes awareness and intention. Even in the face of contrast, I say to myself “all things are working out for my ultimate good”
I challenge us as we move about our day today to be mindful of the internal self-talk and assess if it’s aiming in the direction of your true desires.
With So Much Love,