Greetings beautiful beings!
Valentine’s Day is approaching and I know that this can be a very sensitive and triggering time. I have spoken to many clients who have expressed pain, resentment and an overall sentiment of “failure” around relationships (romantic and otherwise). I have spent some time pondering this and wanted to share some of my own thought and perspectives around pain, grief and loss. (I have and still do experience my fair share).
I wanted to share some ways in which I have been able to process and manage my own feelings around pain, grief, loss and disappointment. I have been broadcasting live on my IG page for the past two days at 11:11am EST and will do so tomorrow (Monday) as well as a part of my “Clean Heart, Period” series (which I am going to re-do as we’ve been experiencing some technical difficulties…I’ll keep you posted on when) I shared that one of the best ways that I have been able to work through and release pain is to face it. Actually allowing myself the time and space to revisit my painful experiences (notice revisit, NOT relive) with the intention and position of of being the observer. Yes, sometimes it feels difficult and I don’t want to “be bothered” with drudging up old pain, however I have learned that what isn’t revealed can’t really be healed and ironically, we continue to relive and create similar dynamics until we are willing to blow the lid off and look at those things square and direct. One practical way that I revisit and release is through letter writing. Please refer to my last post about it here.
Another way that I dismantle pain’s hold on me, is to consistently and frequently keep myself in a state of gratitude. I mean little things…like “thank you God for allowing me to arrive safely to all my errands today, I appreciate that I have a roof over my head, I am so grateful I can breathe unassisted”. While these things may sound trivial, it is really important to observe and acknowledge all the ways in which our lives are truly blessed, because trust and believe that one glitch in the matrix can change these things and we don’t want to “need” catastrophe to happen to appreciate being able to pick up a phone and read an email.
I want to take a moment to affirm you. You are enough, you have enough and you are loved enough. I have been looking myself in the eye each morning (in my bathroom mirror) and telling myself that. ” I am enough, I have enough and I am loved enough”. I hope this message has reached and helped someone. I intend to send a few more love notes throughout this week and share some more tools that have and are working for me.
I hope we all have a fantastic week and remember, when we fill our own love cup, we have enough to share and if/when any external situation happens, we have enough of our own supply to be independent of needing anyone else to “love” or “validate” us. What’s even more amazing is that when we truly, deeply love ourselves we magnetize others who do the same.
With so much love,