I send love, peace and blessings to every individual who reads this content. Today, I am going to be discussing the energetic exchange and spiritual side of sex. Ooooo… LOL.
Let’s talk about sex baby! This topic has been on my mind for years and years, I remember watching Juanita Bynum’s “No More Sheets” and learning of “soul ties” over 10 years ago. Today, I have such a deeper appreciation for the appropriate context upon which to apply this principle to life. (it’s not JUST about sexual relations, but sex definitely creates a much closer connection and tie to an individual’s energy.
In stepping into entrepreneurship, I am being afforded the opportunity to cross paths with literally thousands of women. I have developed a deeper compassion for the emotional and physical distress we all experience at some point in our lives. I hear, and have also experienced my fair share of emotional pain around romantic, sexual relationships. What I have begun to realize is that many times we suppress these heartbreaks and pain in an attempt to “move on” and carry on with life. The subtly obvious resentment, frustration, pessimism around relationships (even jokingly) illustrates that we are in fact, NOT over it. Actually, it winds up holding us hostage, imprisoned and therefore highly susceptible to continue to attract dynamics which produce the same emotions.
Another discovery which has become crystal clear is that emotional/energetic imbalances in our womb, can and will manifest into physical imbalances. This is why things become chronic even after being “treated” and even surgically removed. It’s worth pondering what your heart and womb is “not over” yet. Being authentic and honest with yourself is crucial to free yourself both emotionally and physically.
I am going to tell my own personal story about a time when I literally felt the sexual energy in my womb following a sexual encounter. This dynamic/relationship was toxic and I knew it. I allowed and made the choice to justify my decision of entertaining him. I had known intuitively and felt in my gut and heart that the love wasn’t healthy or even genuine. I let my desire for companionship and “intimacy” override my common sense, and truthfully, I still held onto a lot of pain from previous experiences which is precisely the point of this article. One evening after a late night booty call, as I was driving home, I felt what I can only describe as what felt like a claw, reaching up from my womb up into my chest as if it was attempting to climb my chakras. That seriously freaked me out and was one of the last times I was intimate with him. I did a lot of personal development work after that relationship to really dig into the roots of what attracted what was in retrospect, a horrific scenario.
Pain begets pain, it’s crucial to take intentional action to clear our physical and energetic temple. The womb has been long regarded as the most divine organ because it not creates, but houses and develops human life. This is an indisputable fact.
This is why womb health and detoxification is so important. Steaming offers a wonderful opportunity to release and reveal those pains and tender spots we’ve been pushing deeper and deeper into our subconscious. Not only to the physical imbalances begin to decrease, the emotional ones begin to “escape” with the assistance of all the earthly healing elements. (Fire, Water, Air, Earth and Energy)
Thank you for taking time to read.
With So Much Love,
The Honey Pot
Warning – This post may be triggering for some. I will be discussing abortion and my own experiences.
This has come up quite a bit for me lately in my client sessions and one of the main themes I see tied to it is guilt. Guilt happens to be a perception/emotion that haunts us way after whatever experience that led us to feel guilt in the first place. It’s really a plague that has many of us walking around feeling regret and despair over things that we have no control over, which can be uber disappointing and depressing.
I used to feel a lot of guilt, depression and sadness over the abortion(s) I decided to have over my lifetime. I would go back and forth, over and under, around and through the different possible “karmic” consequences that may or may not have been a direct correlation to this decision. I beat myself up, pretty badly. I have since noticed that I have a really uncanny ability to drive my own self nuts in my mind through self-talk that is critical, judgmental, unforgiving and even cruel.
There were a few different things I did to allow myself to heal from this deep rooted pain, regret, remorse and guilt I carried around for years, allowing it to overshadow my accomplishments and make me feel inferior, as if bad things were “destined” to happen to me. The first thing I did was really step back and become observant of my self talk ( hint, that’s always a good place to start when looking to heal any emotional pain). I also became the observer from what I like to call a “zoomed out” vantage point. I zoom out and take into consideration all factors in my decision and begin to cut myself slack because we always make decisions based on what we perceive is the best possible next step for our current situation and dynamics. With truly knowing and understanding that, compassion can soften the sharp and rigidity of the guilt, shame and regret. I had a whole script around how the relationship from which the child was conceived had turned south due to my decision (when in reality it already was south which was part of the reason for my decision).
The next thing I did was to give myself permission to fully grieve the loss of the life that I had conceived. My reasons for deciding the terminate the pregnancies were valid (and ANY REASON IS), however that did not mean that I was exempt from permission to process my emotions around it in a healthy and empowering manner.
I read some something on how to create a release ritual for my unborn children. It involved actually opening up a dialogue and communicating my emotions around the decision. It also involved naming the child(ren) and truly having a heart to heart conversation. This was highly therapeutic for me because it allowed me to give them identities….names, genders and ages. I wrote to them and then took those letters to a body of water, set them on fire and then set the fiery memorandum afloat in the water. I have since learned and come to know that we as human beings truly do not have the ability to “kill” anyone. We may have the ability to harm and destroy the physical body, but we do NOT have the ability to harm nor destroy any energetic life force. Meaning, even when a person is killed, their energy and spirit live on infinitely and are reborn through another portal. I know this may be a controversial subject and I risk losing some of my readers due to this brazen position, and that’s alright This writing is intended to reach and help any sisters who may be carrying around guilt and baggage for similar decision(s)
I am here to let you know that you are forgiven, GOD forgives you and you ought to forgive yourself, because your decision was the best one you had to make at the time. This is something that is VERY common amongst women and is rarely spoken about openly. We have the right to make decisions about our bodies and reproductive health. We have the right to decide that the consequences outweigh the risk. We have the right to choose ourselves before another person. We even have the right to make mistakes and not judge ourselves for the rest of our lives. Everyone has made mistakes that caused them remorse and/or regret. It’s in the giving of permission of self to truly go and process that remorse and/or regret in which we free ourselves from the inner judgement and criticism. Once we are free from the bondage we hold ourselves to within, nothing or no one without can keep us tied to shame or guilt.
I hope this message touched you in a positive, affirming and empowering way.
With So Much Love,
The Honey Pot
Once I asked myself the question “Megan, are you being ungrateful in any area of your life? I was prompted to truly observe the things that I had access to yet wasn’t valuing. What I realized has blown my mind and caused me to make a serious shift in the way in which I approach my life. The overall and general answer was, time.
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This past week I decided to get onto my IG Live to check in. As I sat in my office, having a conversation with my phone and the beautiful energy on the other end, the conversation found its way to my 3rd birthing story/experience. I have given 4 live births, however I have been pregnant nearly double that many times. (I’ll be discussing abortion and miscarriage in future content)
I think it’s definitely safe to qualify any form of life passing through us as traumatic, this time was no exception to that rule.
As I began to recall my own particular birth story with my youngest son Jace, I was triggered. I was triggered about the general vibrational frequency I held throughout my pregnancy. I was seen as a “high risk” pregnancy due to being overweight and at risk for preeclampsia. The relationship from which my son was conceived was “failed” fairly early on and the emotional eating and depression wasn’t helping me to feel better about myself or my indebtedness to my rapidly expanding body which was at the mercy of the pregnancy.
When I arrived at the hospital and went to triage at 7 centimeters dilated, irritated and experiencing painful contractions, I was monitored and soon told to go home with an Ambien prescription and “come back tomorrow”. Besides being infuriated at the dismissive and incompetent medical judgment of the doctor on duty, I was frustrated and disgusted that it was even considered acceptable for a pregnant woman in labor to take a sleeping sedative. I didn’t perceive my “partner” as being emotionally supportive as he snuck out of the room with my phone and decided to take advantage of my vulnerable condition in an attempt validate his own transgressions and insecurities.
That is my recollection of this particular birth experience. This magical, divine, extraordinary, spectacular and brilliant reality of bringing forth life felt horrible to me because of the negative feelings and emotions that I experienced and subsequently associated with this experience. When I began to recall this experience on my IG Live broadcast, I felt the tears well up and the lump in my throat grow. I had the immediate revelation that this was still a trauma/subconscious cell that was tucked and stored within me that needed to be released. I decided to steam that evening (on IG Live again) with the intention of my “trauma story” around this experience. ( I used my Victorious Blend)
I created an intentional and compassionate space for myself to release in just planning to do the steam, but the steam itself proved to be a very grounding, reflective and healing experience for me. As I began to steam, I initially felt myself get very calm and “wise” about the most empowering way to look back at the experience. It’s funny because I never have been able to articulate that before, I felt the plants wisdom affect my mental processing. It was incredible. I took a very mature stance and really pondered my energetic condition. What I came up with was that my internal state (depressed, dissatisfied, ungrateful and under-appreciated) was having a serious correlation on the things I was attracting into my own experiences.
I was so determined to never have that type of experience again that when I found myself pregnant 9 months later, I decided to do things completely naturally. I planned (and did) have my daughter naturally in the water and used a birthing center instead of a hospital. For post partum care I also looked for alternative and holistic methods, which is how I came across vaginal steaming. I was coming for physical recovery but gained so, SO MUCH MORE!
I love how even though I thought at the time it was a horrible and disastrous experience, it led me to something that would not only heal me, but assist me to connect to myself and ultimately facilitate other people’s healing as well. I now look back on my 3rd birthing experience as a catalyst in my evolution. It was necessary to push me towards my purpose and my passion, albeit excruciatingly painful.
I hope you can relate to this experience in some way. Often we can change our perspective and our trauma story can turn into our triumph story. It sometimes requires that we intentionally make some time to go back and revisit it, and glean more wisdom from it. I am so grateful that I was led to vaginal steaming, and I am also grateful that no matter what we “come for” God knows exactly what we need.
I had an amazing steam session with a client today and the topic of repeating patterns within relationships and life in general came up. I have personally experienced several “themes” that seemed to be recurring amongst and amid interpersonal relationships. On my personal development journey I have come to realize that the things I manifest in my outward experience have a direct correlation to the sustained and consistent energetic frequency that I vibrate on. This means that I am really manifesting from my subconscious, that deep and dark mysterious place where we go to dump off all the pain and hurt that we “don’t have time to deal with” or have “been over that a long time ago”.
For me, once such example was resentment and hurt for the fact that I didn’t have what I perceived to be a meaningful connection with my father. From my first memory of him, he was married to another woman who was not my mother and most of the expectations about what, where, when and how he would show up in my life were almost always met with disappointment unfulfillment and disappointment. Even in writing this, I see how a subconscious propensity was built to:
- Question my worth
- Be made to feel like an outsider
- Expect disappointment
- Not expect honesty and transparency
Please take note of the fact that I very specifically mentioned that my perception was that this was not being a meaningful connection, or rather a painful connection. Of course now at the age of 37 I can take an alternative perspective and realize that it was in fact very meaningful, perhaps not in the “traditional” way of being a positive source of reference for healthy relating, but meaningful without a doubt. You see, we can scratch out my father in this scenario and insert the majority of my personal relationships (both romantic and not). Because my current perception as a child and adolescent was disappointment and unfulfillment. I had created a “subconscious cell” of information to be stored deep (well maybe not as deep as I thought) in my collective subconscious. Without getting all heady into subconscious lingo, we manifest from our subconscious, so when there are “cells” and pockets of pain and trauma, those things have a tendency to manifest in our lives until we are willing to (often by energetic force or circumstance) look at what lies deeply within us that we haven’t intentionally gone back to and scrubbed/eradicated. Whew!
I love my sessions because they are as much cathartic and healing for me as they are for my clients. My suggestion to my client was exactly what I had done in my own life to begin to scrub/eradicate this subconsciously programmed cell, and that was to allow myself to go back there. To stop making excuses (better known as defense mechanisms) such as “I could never miss what I never had” or “that was so long ago, I am over that”. I allowed myself to go back and express my anger, my disappointment, my sadness, hurt, pain and seething jealousy. I allowed myself to feel…and in allowing myself to experience fully that emotion/energy/cell of my subconscious, I was able to begin to release that connection with disappointment, hurt, sadness, pain, sadness and jealousy. I was able to chip away at the very thing that was magnetically attracting the same subconscious dynamics into my life.
Of course, I am not suggesting that just writing one letter to a person who you have held onto painful connection with will instantly and magically heal that pain source from which you attract. But, it can. It all depends on how vulnerable you are willing to become and how you have trained your subconscious agility. For me, it took a few attempts, and after the last one, I was contacted by my fathers in ways that previously triggered me and was able to flex my new subconscious cell/pattern, which was that I had compassion and love and forgiveness to offer him. I had to first begin to cultivate compassion, love and forgiveness in myself to have access to extend it externally.
This brings me to another phrase I coined during our conversation which is “subconscious agility.” My client was remarking on how even sometimes even when she felt like she had “dealt with” a particular recurring theme or scenario that it would rear its “ugly head” once more. That’s when I suggested doing the work of intentionally and willingly revisiting that subconscious cell of stored energy/emotion. I also relayed to my client that from my own personal experience and understanding, the Universe Law of Relativity definitely comes into play as a “test” of sorts to see if we have in fact passed the task/opportunity to learn, grow and absorb the amazing value that comes from trials and trauma if we can position our perspective properly.
I just remembered my mom bought me a book called “A Dad Shaped Hole In My Heart” and I do believe this post sums up what the gist of that text was (although I never actually read it” That hole or cell was intentionally and actively replaced with a strong desire to have no contention with another human being. An intention to be free from all resentment, hurt, pain and to truly experience the amazing gift and freedom that forgiveness provides. In short, I am responsible for filling all of the “holes” in my heart.
PS. My day reached out to me a few months after I wrote my letter and asked to come and meet my children for the first time. Because I had worked on scrubbing that subconscious cell (pocked of energy), I was receptive and didn’t judge or minimize his attempts.
We are now friends on Facebook and he made a post about how proud he is of me and that I am impacting humanity in such a wonderful way. Not a bad outcome, eh?
With So Much Love,
The Honey Pot (Megan)