Once I asked myself the question “Megan, are you being ungrateful in any area of your life? I was prompted to truly observe the things that I had access to yet wasn’t valuing. What I realized has blown my mind and caused me to make a serious shift in the way in which I approach my life. The overall and general answer was, time.
We are excited to share the evolution of our business and the expansive ways to offer value to the community!
This past week I decided to get onto my IG Live to check in. As I sat in my office, having a conversation with my phone and the beautiful energy on the other end, the conversation found its way to my 3rd birthing story/experience. I have given 4 live births, however I have been pregnant nearly double that many times. (I’ll be discussing abortion and miscarriage in future content)
I think it’s definitely safe to qualify any form of life passing through us as traumatic, this time was no exception to that rule.
As I began to recall my own particular birth story with my youngest son Jace, I was triggered. I was triggered about the general vibrational frequency I held throughout my pregnancy. I was seen as a “high risk” pregnancy due to being overweight and at risk for preeclampsia. The relationship from which my son was conceived was “failed” fairly early on and the emotional eating and depression wasn’t helping me to feel better about myself or my indebtedness to my rapidly expanding body which was at the mercy of the pregnancy.
When I arrived at the hospital and went to triage at 7 centimeters dilated, irritated and experiencing painful contractions, I was monitored and soon told to go home with an Ambien prescription and “come back tomorrow”. Besides being infuriated at the dismissive and incompetent medical judgment of the doctor on duty, I was frustrated and disgusted that it was even considered acceptable for a pregnant woman in labor to take a sleeping sedative. I didn’t perceive my “partner” as being emotionally supportive as he snuck out of the room with my phone and decided to take advantage of my vulnerable condition in an attempt validate his own transgressions and insecurities.
That is my recollection of this particular birth experience. This magical, divine, extraordinary, spectacular and brilliant reality of bringing forth life felt horrible to me because of the negative feelings and emotions that I experienced and subsequently associated with this experience. When I began to recall this experience on my IG Live broadcast, I felt the tears well up and the lump in my throat grow. I had the immediate revelation that this was still a trauma/subconscious cell that was tucked and stored within me that needed to be released. I decided to steam that evening (on IG Live again) with the intention of my “trauma story” around this experience. ( I used my Victorious Blend)
I created an intentional and compassionate space for myself to release in just planning to do the steam, but the steam itself proved to be a very grounding, reflective and healing experience for me. As I began to steam, I initially felt myself get very calm and “wise” about the most empowering way to look back at the experience. It’s funny because I never have been able to articulate that before, I felt the plants wisdom affect my mental processing. It was incredible. I took a very mature stance and really pondered my energetic condition. What I came up with was that my internal state (depressed, dissatisfied, ungrateful and under-appreciated) was having a serious correlation on the things I was attracting into my own experiences.
I was so determined to never have that type of experience again that when I found myself pregnant 9 months later, I decided to do things completely naturally. I planned (and did) have my daughter naturally in the water and used a birthing center instead of a hospital. For post partum care I also looked for alternative and holistic methods, which is how I came across vaginal steaming. I was coming for physical recovery but gained so, SO MUCH MORE!
I love how even though I thought at the time it was a horrible and disastrous experience, it led me to something that would not only heal me, but assist me to connect to myself and ultimately facilitate other people’s healing as well. I now look back on my 3rd birthing experience as a catalyst in my evolution. It was necessary to push me towards my purpose and my passion, albeit excruciatingly painful.
I hope you can relate to this experience in some way. Often we can change our perspective and our trauma story can turn into our triumph story. It sometimes requires that we intentionally make some time to go back and revisit it, and glean more wisdom from it. I am so grateful that I was led to vaginal steaming, and I am also grateful that no matter what we “come for” God knows exactly what we need.
I had an amazing steam session with a client today and the topic of repeating patterns within relationships and life in general came up. I have personally experienced several “themes” that seemed to be recurring amongst and amid interpersonal relationships. On my personal development journey I have come to realize that the things I manifest in my outward experience have a direct correlation to the sustained and consistent energetic frequency that I vibrate on. This means that I am really manifesting from my subconscious, that deep and dark mysterious place where we go to dump off all the pain and hurt that we “don’t have time to deal with” or have “been over that a long time ago”.
For me, once such example was resentment and hurt for the fact that I didn’t have what I perceived to be a meaningful connection with my father. From my first memory of him, he was married to another woman who was not my mother and most of the expectations about what, where, when and how he would show up in my life were almost always met with disappointment unfulfillment and disappointment. Even in writing this, I see how a subconscious propensity was built to:
- Question my worth
- Be made to feel like an outsider
- Expect disappointment
- Not expect honesty and transparency
Please take note of the fact that I very specifically mentioned that my perception was that this was not being a meaningful connection, or rather a painful connection. Of course now at the age of 37 I can take an alternative perspective and realize that it was in fact very meaningful, perhaps not in the “traditional” way of being a positive source of reference for healthy relating, but meaningful without a doubt. You see, we can scratch out my father in this scenario and insert the majority of my personal relationships (both romantic and not). Because my current perception as a child and adolescent was disappointment and unfulfillment. I had created a “subconscious cell” of information to be stored deep (well maybe not as deep as I thought) in my collective subconscious. Without getting all heady into subconscious lingo, we manifest from our subconscious, so when there are “cells” and pockets of pain and trauma, those things have a tendency to manifest in our lives until we are willing to (often by energetic force or circumstance) look at what lies deeply within us that we haven’t intentionally gone back to and scrubbed/eradicated. Whew!
I love my sessions because they are as much cathartic and healing for me as they are for my clients. My suggestion to my client was exactly what I had done in my own life to begin to scrub/eradicate this subconsciously programmed cell, and that was to allow myself to go back there. To stop making excuses (better known as defense mechanisms) such as “I could never miss what I never had” or “that was so long ago, I am over that”. I allowed myself to go back and express my anger, my disappointment, my sadness, hurt, pain and seething jealousy. I allowed myself to feel…and in allowing myself to experience fully that emotion/energy/cell of my subconscious, I was able to begin to release that connection with disappointment, hurt, sadness, pain, sadness and jealousy. I was able to chip away at the very thing that was magnetically attracting the same subconscious dynamics into my life.
Of course, I am not suggesting that just writing one letter to a person who you have held onto painful connection with will instantly and magically heal that pain source from which you attract. But, it can. It all depends on how vulnerable you are willing to become and how you have trained your subconscious agility. For me, it took a few attempts, and after the last one, I was contacted by my fathers in ways that previously triggered me and was able to flex my new subconscious cell/pattern, which was that I had compassion and love and forgiveness to offer him. I had to first begin to cultivate compassion, love and forgiveness in myself to have access to extend it externally.
This brings me to another phrase I coined during our conversation which is “subconscious agility.” My client was remarking on how even sometimes even when she felt like she had “dealt with” a particular recurring theme or scenario that it would rear its “ugly head” once more. That’s when I suggested doing the work of intentionally and willingly revisiting that subconscious cell of stored energy/emotion. I also relayed to my client that from my own personal experience and understanding, the Universe Law of Relativity definitely comes into play as a “test” of sorts to see if we have in fact passed the task/opportunity to learn, grow and absorb the amazing value that comes from trials and trauma if we can position our perspective properly.
I just remembered my mom bought me a book called “A Dad Shaped Hole In My Heart” and I do believe this post sums up what the gist of that text was (although I never actually read it” That hole or cell was intentionally and actively replaced with a strong desire to have no contention with another human being. An intention to be free from all resentment, hurt, pain and to truly experience the amazing gift and freedom that forgiveness provides. In short, I am responsible for filling all of the “holes” in my heart.
PS. My day reached out to me a few months after I wrote my letter and asked to come and meet my children for the first time. Because I had worked on scrubbing that subconscious cell (pocked of energy), I was receptive and didn’t judge or minimize his attempts.
We are now friends on Facebook and he made a post about how proud he is of me and that I am impacting humanity in such a wonderful way. Not a bad outcome, eh?
With So Much Love,
The Honey Pot (Megan)
I am so grateful for all the feedback around your experiences with steaming and providing me with information that I can use to begin documenting and creating case studies. I have been taking notes and plan to deliver tools and information that can assist you on your journey of evolving to your best version, both physically and energetically.
Here at The Honey Pot we have been growing, expanding and evolving in terms of the services and value we want to offer to the world. Vaginal Steaming has changed my life and the live’s of other’s. What I am realizing is that through sharing my own personal journey, it inspires and motivates others, which is simply amazing! This has really caused me to contemplate how grateful I am and to also dig deeper to see how I can reach more people.
One of the things I talk about often is the fact that Vaginal Steaming isn’t just physically beneficial, but also energetically/emotionally beneficial as well. I have invested countless hours into not only developing my business but my personal character as well. I have found that Vaginal Steaming helps me to connect with myself, which is where the true transformation takes place.
With that being said, I am developing courses and certification around becoming a Vaginal Steam Practitioner and Facilitator using what I have termed “The Honey Pot Method”. This method takes into account the energetic implications of steaming. I want Vaginal Steaming to become commonplace among women, something that is well known and incorporated as a normalized monthly self care activity. The best way that I can spread this mission and message is to train other’s to carry the torch and set up shop around the world!
As I begin to document my processes, I am realizing that there is a real need to also share my processes around personal development as well. My personal development is deeply tied to and correlated to my business growth and development.
Some of the things I plan to share and provide insight about:
– My Personal Life Story
– Moon Magic
– Single Parenting
– Co- Parenting
– Healing Childhood Trauma
– Perspective Alchemy
– Perspective Alchemy
– Morning Matters
– Establishing a Fitness Routine
– Home School
This is just a preliminary outline of what to expect in the coming months! If you have any suggestions or questions please feel free to respond to this email and let’s chat!
I hope you’re all enjoying your day.
With So Much Love,
The Honey Pot
I hope everyone is enjoying this beautiful day! I pray that wherever you are and whatever you are doing that you are at peace and experiencing extreme gratitude.
” I use my mouth as a blessing for affirmations”
“I am available to magnificent good”
“I am available to more prosperity and abundance that I’ve ever experienced before”
“My conversations are affirmative with vision, possibility and encouragement”
” I am available to dynamic good. I am free from all limitation, all lack and all restriction”
” I am so grateful that I have the power to create my own reality”
“Being and Having alre always my vibration”
3. 5/10 minutes – Visualizing/Imagining your ideal life situation, get detailed about all the senses, look, smell, touch, taste, feel, sound
4. 5/10 minutes – Writing (write what you visualized/imagined) on what you want to manifest in your life
5. 5/10 minutes Exercise ( yoga, running, walking, anything!)
6. 5/10 minutes reading something inspirational.