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Perspective Alchemy

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We exist in this amazing space and time where technology has literally created infinite opportunities to connect with people, places and things around the globe and beyond. The ease of virtual communication creates access to billions of energies, cultures, dynamics, individuals, issues, scenarios and life experiences. This has had a major transformational impact on our life spans as we know them.

We can now access information immediately. We can contact people, immediately. We can interact with and have awareness of similar lifestyles, mindsets and visions. We have the freedom to align with whatever it is we decide, what a fantastic opportunity!

The various potential outcome(s) for our lives in the wake of this new technology age are much like the ever present opportunities that are available to us through our own perspective on a daily basis. This article will address how the multitude of external potential scenarios technology affords externally, mirrors the possibilities we have internally to connect and align with exactly what it is we truly desire.

For example, I can view “losing my job”  as a horrible catastrophe. I can choose to experience feelings of grief, anxiety, fear and lack. These are all actually very “normal” responses based on the way society has impressed upon us, that we should feel when we “lose” a source of income or a “stable” part of our lives. Of course our upbringing, environment, family and circle of friends plays a major role in our vantage point on life and the experiences we acquire as a baseline for our perspective.

From another perspective I can view “losing my job” as an opportunity to really put effort forth into finding my true purpose and stepping into the divine plan inherently available for my life. I can see how amazing it will be to not feel pressured by time constraints or deadlines imposed by other people. I can see the bliss in being able to work on my own personal development through doing things like yoga, meditation and journaling. I can begin to open my mind to the different ways I can invest my time from the “loss” of what I was doing before, which is really a gain in possibility.

Of course our mind immediately goes to MONEY!!! What about the money? How will I pay my bills? How can I be peaceful and at bliss when I need money!? There is definitely a very real provision that needs to happen in order for us to maintain and elevate our current lifestyles. The answer is very simple, however it doesn’t always seem simple to implement and practice. The answer is trust. Trust in GOD and in the fact that everything is always conspiring for our greatest good, even when it doesn’t necessarily look that way from the first glimpse/experience.

There are many scripts, scenario’s and analyses that play in our minds seemingly 24 hours a day. The typical person allows themselves to be drawn in by these scripts, being a willing participant in the non-stop dialogue that our mind has with us.  More often than not, we identify with these voices as if they all should have equal weight and brevity to project itself onto the position we “should be” or “could be” making. Free will is a Sacred gift that the creative energy has provided us.  We have the extreme honor and advantage of choosing the perspective lens from which we view out life experience(s).

One of the most critical facets of perspective alchemy and the ability to tap into the multitude of opportunities is to first allow our minds to conceive what is possible. By utilizing our past and/or current experiences, we have a built in contrast to know what we do want, by merely identifying what we don’t. For example, I know that I don’t want to waste time investing into a relationship only to be hurt again, so I can reframe that to know I only want to invest in relationships that uplift and heal me.

When we give ourself permission to contemplate on what life would look like if we were truly happy and content, we being to introduce new visions and possibilities, just like that extremely attractive man on your social media feed, now that we’ve seen him, we know he exists. LOL! But, seriously…

When we begin to explore holistic healing and personal development from the vantage point of energy and physics, there are some incredible discoveries and powers to behold. I will address in subsequent publications, but some of the very laws of quantum physics are at play every single day, hour, minute and second of our lives. We are participating in these equations whether we are aware or not, so, from my own personal perspective, I’d like to know and learn as much as I can to make sure that my equation is something that I enjoy and feel fulfilled from.

A lot of people have the tendency to place their attention and focus on what is “missing” from their lives. What they “need” to make their lives better and more fulfilled. This is actually sending a frequency/vibration of lack. When we can be fulfilled and content already with our lives and ourselves, is when we can begin to tap into “more” fulfillment and contentment, because we can only get more of what we are. There is a current trend of “New Age” Metaphysics (that are all actually ancient wisdom regurgitated)  that talk about “manifesting” and “reality creation”. My intention is to begin to peel back the layers of reality creation in my own life, so I can then communicate and share my observations and experiences with you, in the hopes that it can assist and inspire you along your amazing journey.

 

With So Much Love,
The Honey Pot

How Vaginal Steaming Saved My Life

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Today, during a yoni steaming session, I was asked by a client to tell her my story and background around steaming. This is a question I get asked frequently so I pretty much have a “spiel”, where I gloss over the past 5 years of my life (for time efficiency’s sake) and how I have two small children (for a total of 4) and how I got a job when I was 9 months pregnant and then felt pressured to return to work in an alarmingly short time period because I perceived that I had to hurry back to work or the provision for my family would be jeopardized. I was too reliant on myself versus GOD, but GOD can always turn our pain into purpose and redeem decisions we made with less discernment than appropriate. YES GOD!

What I realized today, was that this is NOT A SPIEL. This is a story that needs to be honored, and acknowledged, and praised and learned from. YES GOD!

The truth is that I was involved in what seemed to be like a toxic relationship (but know I realize that the relationship served to show me a mirror to the “toxicity” frequency I vibrated within, that manifested itself in the story line that was my reality (life) at that time and in that space. I perceived that everything was on me and I had to bear the burden because that’s what I had always done…  I will blog more on this dynamic later but in interest of time and readers attention span I will focus back on how vaginal steaming served to save (and still does) my life.

Because I perceived that the societal pressures meant that I needed to sacrifice precious time with my newborn, I delved more deeply into my already natural and holistic lifestyle. My daughter was born naturally with no medication in the water on July 6, 2014. I steamed shortly after I returned home from the hospital and did so consistently 3-4 times per week for about 2 months and then monthly after to keep my cycles and entire body, mind and energy balanced throughout the navigation of the next almost 4 years where I would be standing in my kitchen, running my own business, sharing yoni steaming and the natural healing modalities that I have learned and am still learning with other women.

YES GOD.

When I really allowed myself to ponder and express what Yoni Steaming did for me, I realized it poured back into me. Not only did it literally give me botanical vapors containing medicinal properties, but it gave me a space to be vulnerable and receive the abundance of the earth.

Genesis 1:29 – And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which [is] upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which [is] the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat.

Revelation 22:1-2 –

In the midst of the street of it, and on either side of the river, [was there] the tree of life, which bare twelve [manner of] fruits, [and] yielded her fruit every month: and the leaves of the tree [were] for the healing of the nations.

 

2 In the midst of the street of it, and on either side of the river, [was there] the tree of life, which bare twelve [manner of] fruits, [and] yielded her fruit every month: and the leaves of the tree [were] for the healing of the nations.

 

With So Much Love,

 

The Honey Pot

Reconciling with God

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God, Jesus, Allah, Jehovah, The Universe, Source, Higher Self…

Humanity has a pressing need to “label” things in an attempt to be better equipped to wrap their mind around and accept things. I have personally grown to not subscribe to labels and make the intentional choice to accept, and be. God is infinite and all that exists. Therefore, I am infinite, and all that exists.

I have found that there are very specific levels of energy and these can be used to determine and/or predict the action, behavior, situations, emotional responses, outcomes, scenarios, dynamics and overall energetic implications of a person, place or thing. The learning of this knowledge has better equipped me to not only observe my own varying energy levels, but observe the energy or past, current and future endeavors as well. Combined with truly tapping into and trust my intuition is yielding wonderfully rapid and drastic results in my life and the lives of those whom I impact.

When I was a young girl, I had a song that came to me which consisted of the word “yes” repetitively. When I was in my early 20’s I attended a church names New Life Ministries in Rochester, NY and truly felt it in my soul when Bishop McGill told me that God was going to use me to spread “the message”. In fact, I felt it so much I enrolled in to the Master’s in Divinity Program at Shaw University shortly after my eldest child’s father was violently murdered in Rochester, NY.

Divinity school left me confused, anxious and angry at the social, political, historic and financial dynamics at play when Christianity was formed. Because I (and a lot of humanity) had been programmed within a very dualistic (extreme) nature, I just threw the whole religion out and deemed it oppressive, fake and ill intended. Now, there are still parts of the religion (and all religion(s) / spirituality frankly) that appeal more to it’s participant’s ego rather than the higher self dynamic. With and through unconditional love and compassion, religion/spirituality has it’s rightful place, along with any (yes any) dynamic written and cycled throughout the history of humanity.

As I take an observant role at where my life is currently, I am humbled, overwhelmed, honored and in extreme Awe at how my life has truly circled back to the very messages and inklings that my intuition (GOD) has been whispering into my spirit either directly or by way of other’s on my life’s path.

 

I am so grateful to have stepped into my evangelical prophesied role of being an example for God’s light here on earth. I am stepping into this role unapologetically and standing on faith that God will redeem and elevate me to a position and platform that will allow millions to be touched by this divine source that flows through me, and all of us.

YES GOD!!!

 

With So much Love,

 

The Honey Pot

(Megan)

Knowing When To Fold

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Sometimes we can get so caught up in to-do lists, workout routines, schedules and life events that it seems we never have any down time. A lot of times, it’s very true that our schedules and priorities do require us to be at full capacity for the majority of time some days. It sounds great that say that we need to “schedule some me time” for ourselves, but realistically that isn’t always feasible.

I’ve recently realized that it is extremely challenging to actually take “down time”. Even when I attempt to relax I find my mind racing and analyzing what should or could be getting done instead of actually remaining present and resting. One of the tools that can be utilized to combat this is to actually have gratitude for the place you are, right now this very second, not in an hour once you complete x,y,z. Not in a month when your body looks like this or that. But right now, looking at what we’ve accomplished and what we’ve overcome and how we’ve excelled and appreciating that, instead of beating ourselves up for what hasn’t occurred yet.

I implore you (and myself) to take actually focus on silencing your inner voice that attempts to keep you busy (versus productive) all the time. Let’s schedule in “me time” and “know when to fold” on our current routines. The world will not end. This, just like any change will take practice, diligence and consistency. Let’s be gentle with ourselves and fold when the time calls for it. We can focus and zero in on the things that genuinely need to be addressed when we allow ourselves to just simply be and presently fold into our magnificence, even if only for a moment.

With So Much Love,

Simply Megan

Open Letter To Everyone

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This initially started out as an open letter to Joani, the beautiful soul who encourages, support, loves and lifts me up any chance she gets, mostly virtually now a days on Facebook but also in tangible ways over the years. She made a comment on a recent post I put on Facebook regarding my weight release and transformational journey over the past year. She talked about the trials, tribulations, challenges, triumphs, changes and catalysts that have affected my life for the past several many years. She brought me to tears. She brought me to a deep place of humility and gratitude and I decided that instead of just responding to her, I’d respond to everyone. All those who have played a part in my life, whether you loved me, hurt me, supported me, abandoned me, guided me, mentored me, laughed with me, cried with me, given to me, taken from me, helped me, broke my heart, double-crossed me, it doesn’t matter, you helped me to become who I am, and for that, I am so appreciative. Ultimately any of the dynamics I/we’ve experienced are a matter of perception. And perception is so critical to how we respond and grow.

Although I’m not here to go into the intricate details of my life, I am here to be open and say that these past few years have not always been comfortable or easy. They have been filled experiences of loss and pain that brought me tremendous, suffering, pain and sorrow.

I lost my amazing, beautiful, charismatic, robust, giving, sacrificial, loving older brother whom I had the immense honor or meeting and knowing for the past 8 years of my life. He was 20 years my elder and served as a best friend, father-figure, older brother and kindred soul mate whose profound effect on me, my children’s and several others lives will NEVER be overlooked or not felt.

I loved a man and created two fantastic, beautiful, gifted, amazing and brilliant children with. Although our personal relationship romantic relationship was not long-lasting, we have/are worked(ing) on coming to a mutual respect and honor for each other and the role we will now play in each others lives for the rest of this lifetime. We still love and care for each other very much in the context of being spiritual beings brought together to create greatness. The profound love we share for our children supersedes any other dynamic.

My friendship with another one of my soul mates grew and became strong and fortified as she navigated both pregnancies with me and helped aid and assist me in the birth of my youngest daughter. Her love, support, encouragement, conversation, astrological studying, energy, healing words and fresh perspective have been pivotal in becoming the person I am today.

I found out that I was to be a grandmother and my Sun would be transitioning into fatherhood at the tender age of 17. I have learned to allow space for the growth and transition through adolescence, to hold space for the inevitable learning and natural universal consequence that comes with making choices for ourselves. I have come to grow in my admiration for his resilience and ability to persevere through loss and challenges.

My respect, honor and admiration for my daughter has grown as I see how she is navigating through her adolescence while she serves as a strong support of me and her younger siblings in helping me to care for them consistently, thoroughly and in such a nurturing fashion. Her grace, strength, patience and dynamic flexibility inspires me daily.

My heart has been cracked wide open to experience an influx of emotions from love/bliss to pain/loss. I have healed wounds that I was unaware existed. I have loved in spaces and places that I thought were scarred over. I have learned that slow-paced, methodical and consistent breathing, thinking and doing are key. I have been introduced to new love(s) that have impacted my life in ways that served to catapult me into becoming the best version of my own Self.

My friends both near and far are such a brilliant and beautiful reflection of the things I embody and as my circle has/is changing, I see ascension. I see love. I see happiness. I see growth.

I have looked into the people who surround me and seen the reflection of my flaws and my strengths. I have utilized the gift of perception and focused on gratitude versus victim-consciousness. I have found and admitted my passions to myself. I have met and mingled with many new friends and energies that have served to show me the potential to which I can reach. I have let go of things, people, things, thought patterns and dynamics which no longer serve my highest purpose. I have reflected on where I’ve been and am genuinely grateful for all of these experiences. I have left behind the painful emotion and focused on the positive result and new growth and insight I’ve gained as a woman. I have accepted that I am amazing, charismatic, hilarious, giving, generous, impulsive, determined, stubborn and sometimes argumentative. I have also accepted that these things do not define me, yet they allow me inspire, create and lift others up. I have been given new reasons to persevere (versus excuses on why I can’t so anything).  I have become aware that I change every single day, and that the difference between misery and bliss is one thing: perception. Gratitude is the root of all joy. Without these people and scenario’s I wouldn’t be where and who I am today, and I am sooo in love with who and where I am today. The support provided to me has been amazing. This is not just about me and my own strength, this is about the strength and resolve of the people in my circle who I’ve been exposed to, some in closer proximity than others. Thank you, I love you.

Thank you Joani. Thank you for being one of the several amazing souls in my life that supports and loves me through all of life’s changes. Thank you to everyone for the role you’ve played, are playing and will continue to play. I do not take for granted your contribution nor presence in my life, whatever that was, is or will be.

With So Much Love,

Simply Megan

True Love

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Just the mere pairing of those two words and we tend to automatically jump towards thinking or romantic love. Of course, romantic love is included in this sentiment, however TRUE love covers a more colossal gamut. My attention and focus coming out of this most recent Venus Retrograde period (7/25/15 0 9/6/15) has been to search deeply into myself to become aware of the definition I attached to love, of all sorts.

Of course! I’ll give you the “cliffnotes” version and say that it definitely all comes back to a love we have for ourselves. But, I’d like to take you a bit further into my  journey which has allowed me to gain a much more long-lasting sense of contentment and a much more positive relationship with love in all its various forms and perspectives.

I am within the belief that we all have a divine love within ourselves that cannot be taken away, no heartbreak, drink, drug, experience, loss or fear, can EVER, take our divinity away from us. What can happen though, is that we can feel so lost, detached and hurt about what we’ve perceived as unfair, painful and traumatic happenings that we completely forget and lose sight of that bright shiny love that we all share at a very deep intrinsic level. A lot of times, we experience pain around “love” in a relationship with someone else of whom we’ve had expectations of and therefore associate pain and love as one in the same or even worse, the inevitable outcome.

This could be abandonment by a parent, infidelity of a spouse, “back-stabbing” by a friend, feeling under-appreciated by a family member or several other MILLION scenarios that basically stem from the same place, perceived abandonment regarding a particular expectation we had on someone other than ourselves. There’s that little word again… expectation. Oh expectation, how do you annoy me? Let me count the ways… Nah, I don’t have time to focus on that, but, it’s a lot!!!

I have found that truly getting in touch with myself and the wounds I have perceived surrounding love of all types and working to heal and release, has allowed me to broaden my view on what love really means. It’s boundless. It’s without expectation. It’s unconditional. It’s expansive. It’s marvelous. It’s everywhere.

I have a post it note on my desk that says “My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance and in inverse proportion to my expectations” . This translates into allowing other people we are in relationships with the space to be authentically true to themselves. WHATEVER that means. It’s a difficult charge for most of us to love someone fully and robustly without expecting certain things in return. It requires honesty.  It requires that we let old ideas go about what someone needs to prove to us. It requires that we  let our egos go. It requires that we become strong in our vulnerability. It requires that we first heal ourselves. It requires that we first love ourselves.

True Love and the way it shows up in our relationship with others has a direct correlation on how we love ourselves. Are we good enough to us? Do we seek perfection knowing it’s impossible? Do we accept ourselves and all our flaws? Do we give to others before we give to ourselves in an unhealthy way? Do we give to ourselves before others selfishly? Let’s take an honest inventory of our own hearts and how we TRULY love or need to learn to love ourselves so that we can offer ourselves true love and in turn everyone to whom we come into contact. Let’s find balance, truth, honor, respect and introspect. Once we find those things and the divine nature in ourselves, it’s SO much easier to find it in others.

With So Much Love,

Simply Megan

Hot Yoga and My Life

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Sooooo, hot yoga became a pretty consistent staple for me in my health routines about 5-6 years ago. Keeping in mind I use the word “consistent” very loosely. I practiced vigorously and then fell off and my cycles seem to wax and wane depending on my current life situations. I happened to have two beautiful little babies within the past 3 years so there are at least 20 months in there where hot yoga was a no-no due to my “with child” condition.

I find that any yoga, but especially hot yoga, is a microcosm of our entire lives, right there, in 90 minutes on the mat, dripping with sweat, “monkey mind” attempting to make us quit the whole time and telling us that there is no way in hell we’ll ever get through this. But you know what? I’ve always come out alive… every. single. time. Not only have I come out alive, but I’ve come out more aware of the power my mind has to control responses to uncomfortable sensations. Even more important than that, I’ve become aware of my breath.

We take breathing for granted in our day-to-day goings on’s… we breathe fast when we are anxious or exited, we hold our breath when we’re on edge, we even slow our breathing down when we are crying and attempt regain our composure. When you’re standing in a room that ranges between 95-105 degrees and being instructed to get into poses that stretch, compress and strengthen every single organ…well, let’s just say that it can be intense. I find that the actual physical movement isn’t as intense as the barrage of thoughts that come rushing to my mind. Anyone who knows me knows how deep I study and gain insight from astrology. I definitely believe that my moon in Gemini kicks into over drive and begins to berate me. She tells me things like “OMG, you are going to DIEEEE, do you hear me? Death is near!!!” and “Noooo, I cant believe this broad is asking me to do this! Is she freaking retarded, no way, no way in HELL am I going to be able to hold this pose for one more SECOND!!!”

Gaining an awareness on how I respond to a perceived “stressful” situation on my mat in hot yoga has allowed me to more honestly observe and become aware of how I respond to perceived stress in day to day life. Just like I’ve learned to talk myself down and calm my breath on the mat, I’ve applied this to my life. I bring my breath into awareness and it seems to help aid in whatever “crisis” I may find myself facing at that particular time.

I am so grateful and honored to live near an amazing studio in Raleigh, NC called Open Door Raleigh run by Monica Shannon. She is charismatic, informative, hilarious, compassionate and just a damn good hot yoga instructor! She is very authentic, which lightens the mood and makes jokes about whether we’d prefer the air to come out of our butts or to breathe it out through the moving meditation of yoga. (By the way, the answer is definitely our butt!! Easier and less time and focus)

This is one of the methods I use to ensure that I am balanced and detoxed. Although in this post I am solely focusing on the personal, emotion and mental side of hot yoga, there are physiological and physical benefits that are out of this world!!! My skin, blood pressure, strength and flexibility literally improve after just one session and when I’m truly as consistent as I’d like to be (3 times per week) man! I feel like i can take over the world! I have more energy, am in better moods and really have more overall focus and clarity in my mind. My intention is to integrate and prioritze this amazing self-loving act.

Hot Yoga Rocks!!

With So Much Love,

Simply Megan

You Come First

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Life is busy. We have several responsibilities, obligations and tasks that need to be completed on a daily basis to ensure that our lives run smoothly. My day is action packed from morning until night. With two babies that are 2 and 1, I am going (seemingly non-stop) from the time I wake up (or am woken up) until the time I start winding down for the evening to rest. Most everyone, whether you have children or not, has other people depending on them. Whether it’s your family, friends, or colleagues, we all affect the lives of other people immensely based on how we show up in our own lives. There is a direct correlation to the quality and dependability which we can offer others and the time we take to nurture and care for ourselves.

Like the old cliché adage says “You can’t give to someone else what you don’t have to give”. I love metaphors and I would take this a step further to illustrate with these examples: How can a poor person advise you on how to get rich? How can an unorganized person help you organize? How can an unfit person help you get fit? Seeing a trend here? Those make perfect sense and I doubt could be argued, however we tend to not apply the same principle to the unseen intangible things. These range from peace, love, honor, satisfaction, reliability, commitment, consistency, contentment and so much more. These are internal factors that we need to maintain and work to achieve so that we can offer them to the folks who need us the most.

We tend to have the perception that we must put everyone else’s needs and priorities above our own, which is true when we are dealing with babies or children who are not self-sufficient. However, even then, we must take the time to make sure we are healthy, both inside and out to ensure we can offer presence that has quality, not just quantity. If I’m with my babies, but I’m on my phone not interacting with them, or engaged in other things besides them, what am I really offering them? If I’m tired and cranky and emotionally unbalanced, what does my interaction look like with my family, friends or colleagues? Am I showing up at 100% or am I just there filling space? Let’s progress to not just show up, but to show up with authentic, genuine, quality of presence that offers those that are exposed to us the best possible result.

I have implemented several ways in which I take time out of my schedule to honor and love myself so that I can stay at my best capacity in an effort to show up for the people who depend on and matter most to me. Exercising, meditating, eating healthy, making financial decisions that prioritize what’s really important in my life and getting adequate time to relax are among my top tools. Let’s all find what helps us be the best version of ourselves so that we can positively impact all whom we come into contact with.

With So Much Love,

Simply Megan

STFU

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Or “Saint Foo” as I affectionately refer to this euphemism. It’s necessary, healthy and absolutely downright critical if we are to maintain our inner peace and joy. I can’t count how many conversations I overhear in passing during my daily routines that are centered around someone else. What they did, said, are going to do etc. Perhaps as we think over our conversation’s with our lovers, best friends, co-workers, family or even our children we may find that a big portion of our topics revolve around other people.

We’re discussing their relationships, their parenting skills, their choices, their life..just THEM in general. I have found that this creates unnecessary drama and distraction away from the very things that should be our MAIN priority. Ourselves and our life. Period! A lot of times we talk to entertain ourselves and others with the content. Talking is a sacred tool that should be honored and respected (after all, everyone is not blessed with this gift). It should be used as a true form of communication and by communication I mean effective expression of solving issues and/or filtering love through the universe.

I am a proponent of the theory that love and fear are the only two real base emotions. When we find or feel the need to negatively speak about others and sometimes even our own selves, I believe it’s rooted in an insecurity/fear. I believe we can always be striving to improve our own personal situations and keeping that in mind, how do we really have any time to do anything else? While you’re discussing someone else’s business, you could be improving your own. I have observed that people who tend to constantly focus on other people’s shortcomings are typically extremely unhappy and unfulfilled in their own lives.

We all need a vent session every once in a while, however “how you do something.. is how you do everything” – (T Harv Ekar). If it’s once in a while, it’s a fluke, if it’s constant, it’s who you are. Don’t be that person. Don’t be hypocritical and salty. It’s really not a good look. Keeping in mind that we are all sponges , let’s wring that nasty stuff out and start fresh.

With So Much Love,

Simply Megan

Who Me?!

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I do not allow my children to discuss what someone else did “to them” or that “made them” respond in a certain way. I also, refrain from blaming or focusing on anyone but myself regarding situations that may have been a catalyst for undue stress or upset. Once we focus on another person aside from ourselves, we distance ourselves from a solution. It may feel really great at the outset, however it does nothing to alleviate the underlying issue that manifested the upset in the first place!

I won’t get all spiritual and “I attract everything I experience” on you. (Although it’s true, I swear it’s true yall!) But, I will say that I am of the firm belief that it takes two to tango. When we find ourselves in situations that leave us feeling hurt, resentful, angry, frustrated or sad, it is critical to examine our role in that situation. Sometimes it’s as simple as the fact that we didn’t respect ourselves enough NOT to be in that dynamic in the first place. Other times, it’s that we were actually being irresponsible and then suffered the inevitable consequences of that irresponsibility. And then, sometimes, we actually are being victimized and do NOT deserve the treatment, response or provocation that we’ve experienced. Either way, no matter what the scenario, we must look to our own responses to whatever upsetting situation faces us.

This requires honesty and self-awareness. A lot of times we cannot find our role or contribution. There are those cases when we are simply experiencing something to become stronger as a person and have more stamina to overcome adversity. That is also a role. Let’s look at the way in which the way we take responsibility for ourselves versus expecting someone else to be mindful of our well-being.

For me personally, I know that my expectations tend to be a source of unhappiness or discontent. Expecting things of people or situations that have already proven to be unstable isn’t wise. I love the quote  “My Happiness Grows in Direct Proportion To My Acceptance and In Inverse Proportion to my Expectation” – Michael J Fox. Acceptance is one of those easier said than done things, but with practice and mindful observance, it is very possible. Once we accept people and situations for who they are and focus on what we can control (OURSELVES!) life becomes infinitely more amazing!

With so much love.

Simply Megan