Transformation Period Blog

I thought of several different ways to name this blog but as with most things, the first thought was closest to the one that made the most sense. I have birthed something beautiful with The Honey Pot and am amazed daily at how much I am witnessing some very strong correlations.

Firstly, pause. No literally, PAUSE. That is my goal before I utter any single word (and for those who know me personally, I have a lot of words to say). I notice that when I can find that moment of pause and reflection, I can create a lot of space and opportunity where I previously created confrontation and anxiety.

Secondly, be honest. Being authentic and real about what you’re feeling, what you need, who you are, and what you’re doing is DIRECTLY TIED INTO your ability to make positive, healthy and loving choices for yourself and then by default others. Honesty is the Honey, the sweet spot, the place where you can have a real opportunity for major growth and evolution.

*Runs in from the other room* “THE HONEY POT!!! The HONEST POT! THE HONEST PRINCIPLES OF TRANSFORMATION. YEEESSS!!!!!!”

This is what The Honey Pot is built on. This and other principles, YES!

Words carry a lot of energy. They convey our thoughts and clearly state our intention for thereality we are creating (constantly) for ourselves. There are a lot of cliche statements that reference and highlight this theme.
​“As above, so below” and “you are what you think” are few that although they may sound very unconventional, generic and lofty, however there is real and true value in being mindful of just how much words can work to determine your life’s experience(s). As I have observed myself and my experiences within the span of my life, I begin to correlate what a strong tie there is between the thoughts I’m having, and subsequently the words that I choose while expressing myself.

At this current point in my life, my personal charge and opportunity for growth is found in using LESS words. I know not everyone has this challenge, but I definitely did! So, I have evolved my
language to incorporate words/motto’s/responses that say a lot without saying much. Maximizing the minimum, getting the most bang for my buck (proverbially speaking….well,actually…literally too!)

I am extremely mindful of my responses with myself and others. There are a few select, choice responses I am finding to be practical for most circumstances. Also, these same responses help me to identify and process the most beneficial, peaceful vantage point to choose.

Yes is definitely my favorite, the top pick, the number one chosen response that I have to most situations. Why? For me, it stems from overwhelming sense of gratitude for all of the things that
I am fortunate enough to have and experience. This is a crucial part of being able to receive abundance and “more” of anything.

By saying “yes” I am acknowledging the great gift that is before me. I am passionately exclaiming that I am thankful for whatever “good” is happening. Being an extremist, I take it to the thought process of, “if I’m not saying yes about it, then it really doesn’t matter.” Not that it literally doesn’t matter, but it’s not a matter I am going go choose to focus on or put much energy into at all.

If there is a situation/scenario when yes isn’t the response, I’m looking for the next actions I need to take to put myself in a situation where it is. I only choose to be involved in dynamics that consistently warrant the need for that response. Yes, there are plenty of situations where “Yes” would not be the initial appropriate response, however even in those, I search, dig and hunt for the “yes”. You know why? Because It’s always there. Even in the midst of catastrophic pain and loss, there is always something to be grateful for, and to say yes about.

This has proved a great asset to me, along with those who come into contact with me and are exposed to this relatively radical line of thinking and way of being. I am humbled and honored to
be able to share this blog post in a clear and succinct way. Yeeesss!!!

I have come into contact with people who I meet one time that walk away exclaiming “yes!!!”. One man I met invested in my business and calls me to have our weekly “yes” recap. I have client’s who leave the Honey Pot saying “yes”. My friends and family say it much more often. Even if folks aren’t as extreme as I am with implementing yes into their daily vernacular, it’s a
nugget that can assist to help guide you back to what the focal priorities should be. 
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It’s been quite a while since I’ve posted here, but the wait has been worth it ( I promise). I am thrilled to say that my life has come together in a way that I would have never imagined last year. I definitely am no stranger to hardship or challenge, but 2016 revealed so much to me that I honestly was denying to my own self.

It’s a cold cold world out here folks. That’s the bottom line. People will hurt you. You will hurt you. Compassion and kindness don’t always equate to submission and/or compromise. Longevity doesn’t equal loyalty. When people are consistent in their actions (whatever they may be) you take them at face value.

Last year, I was struggling with many self-worth beliefs instilled from childhood experience and perception. There was a subconscious longing to be approved of, to be loved… and get this, it wasn’t enough for just anyone to approve and love me, it HAD to be unavailable/incapable people. Pretty silly right? Logically it makes no sense…but subconciously, it was my truth. It was my weak spot, Achilles heal. A place that I had made a home without even realizing it.

There were so many painful “aha” moments. Boundaries became my best friend. I FINALLY implemented the cliche modality us “conscious hotep folks” swear by. If it wasn’t good for me, didn’t motivate me towards progress, wasn’t dependable, went cold…I released it. I’m not talking temporarily “letting go” until it circled back around, I’m talking about chopping, slicing, dicing and mitigating relationships. Some young some old..and can I be honest? That shit HURT!!! It was scary to be “on my own”but even beyong that it was the fact that I hadn’t been kind to myself. I wasn’t making loving decisions towards myself. I was fearful of all this newfound free time I had with my own self. Who am I? This was the pressing question that continued to rear it’s head the more time I spent isolated from toxicity.

Since it’s 1:30 am right now I won’t elaborate too much (right now) but let me just state that I got to know Megan…and you know what else. She’s really DOPE!!! I’m not talking about the egotistical frame of being dope, I’m talking about the authentic way. I am vulnerable yet strong, carefree yet controlled, hard yet soft and throughout the journey I learned how to TRULY honor and love myself. Guess what else? Once I truly got the hang of it (cause it’s just like riding a bike you know), I became so much better at plainly spotting folks who DIDN’T honor and love me. It was/is quite the eye opening experience!

So, here I am in 2017, the last year of Saturn’s return ( I LOVE SATURN by the way!!!) and life is really coming together for me. This newfound love, awareness and mindfulness of myself has permeated out into every area of my life. I am experiencing so much alignment and consistency. The more I let go the more I receive. Crazy right? I’ve started my own business(s) full time and there’s no looking back. My life is being lived on purpose (yep, that’s an entendre) and I’m ecstatic!!! This is truly the year of yes.

Anywho, Bikram and that 105 degree room first thing in the morning will be here soon and I must rest my eyes. Thank you for reading and if you’re interested please check out my website for updates on what my Passion to Purpose looks like. Ciao!

I am a healer.

I know how to bend myself in any dynamic to result in peace.

Sometimes that means apologizing, even if I don’t feel I was wrong.

It means saying I love you first, even if means feeling vulnerable.

It means being open, even when I’d rather retreat.

I heal with my:

Laughter

Love

Sense of Humor

Experience

Astrology

Friendship

Forgiveness

Philosophy

Honesty

Knowledge

Humility

How do you heal?

With So Much Love,

Simply Megan

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It’s definitely not something I’ve never heard before. I am a self admitted control freak. I like being in control (but I mean, who doesn’t). I think the manner in which we maintain control sets us apart from one another. Some people are direct and blunt about their preferences and what they will and won’t do or accept (that’s me). Then, there are those who perhaps allow things to happen that they may not like, but they do cannot find the voice to express their preference so they do passive/aggressive things to regain control over a particular situation.

Next, we have the person who controls the situation by withdrawing from it. They would prefer to avoid the perceived conflict or confrontation that may arise from their wants and needs not being in alignment with someone else’s. Some folks use emotional manipulation as a form of control. They make a person feel a certain way in order to get what it is they want from the dynamic. These are all human behaviors and normal…to an extent. We probably exhibit one if not all of these methods. As I stated before, I’m definitely from the direct, bold and specific variety.

An observation that I’ve made is that people who tend not to have very much control over their own life tend to like to toss that term around. When you allow other people to dictate your movements, you lose control. When you don’t have control, you have a sensitivity to people who do. You may feel they are overbearing or demanding, and while this may very well be the case, is that such a bad thing? I’m sure many people whom we consider successful would be perceived as being extremely controlling, besides, how could they have achieved success had they not been? An extreme athlete has to take control over every aspect of his life. The food, the exercise regime, the mental discipline…all these things require immense amounts of control. We have demonized this word as if it’s wrong to want to be in control. If more folks would take control over their life, their issues, their responses, their communication, they may find that life changes, for the better. Being in control is amazing!

With So Much Love,

Simply Megan

I was changing yoga positions in a Hot Fusion 90 class while visiting one of my best friends out in the Midwest during Holiday in November 2015.  I had a strong notion to cut all my hair off. Now I will be the first to admit that the massive almost 7 pound weave twists I had installed about two weeks prior were irritating the zhit out of me. They were big and bulky in order to cover up the locs I had begun about 7 months prior to that point.

I had been viciously moving the double-scarf wrapped pile atop my head around all morning. As I attempted to pull my head up to a proper position in reverse warrior , the synthetic bundle I affectionately named “Dolly” felt like it weighed twenty pounds, I had enough. It was my breaking point.

Immediately my internal dialogue began. “But you already started locs, you’ll be a quitter”, “What if you don’t look cute with short hair” , “It’s winter, it’s cold outside”. Being that I am a very diplomatic person, I had responses for each of these ego-based questions. It didn’t matter if I looked cute, It doesn’t matter if other people view me as a quitter, I have many scarves and hats for chilly weather!!!

The most resounding call to me was that the energy that was in and currently was being “locked” into my head was an energy I wanted and desperately needed to release and let go of. The past several years have been challenging for me as I’ve been transparent about in my open letter to everyone . Anyone who knows me knows that when I make an executive decision, I move on. There is no second guessing it. If there is a regret (which there rarely is) I am willing to pay the cost and stand behind my decision and examine my regret in retrospect.

The peace I felt with the decision I made before the hair actually came off my head was amazing. It began to open up all types of Buddhist revelations about the metaphors for this decision and where I am in my life. I will share the recap now:

1. I am completely comfortable with making my own decisions and living with my own consequences.
2. I would rather live with consequences based on decisions I make about my own view of myself versus others views of me.
3. I have the right to change my mind about any decision I’ve previously made at my whim. Life changes, so do decisions.
4. Purging is an AMAZING tool! It should not just be limited to physical things external.
5. My hair does not define me or the value I offer to the world.
6. If there is anyone in my life that is attracted to me for shallow reasons (such as hair), I’d like to eradicate them by default anyway.
7. My peace and happiness is more important that holding up an appearance for anyone else.
8. Somtimes when zhit becomes to painful or heavy, we’ve got to cut it off, for our (and our scalps) own good!

With So Much Love,

Simply Megan

So! I will have been on this earth 35 years as of November 23, 1980 at 4:00pm. 35 is the age that I officially considered “old” when I was younger, however now I see it as “still young”. Young enough to start over, young enough to change for the better, young enough to experience life in all its fullness and glory. But, let’s be honest, no age is “too old” to do that now is it?

I have already spilled my guts in previous posts such as my Open Letter To Everyone . So, I won’t do that here. What I will do. It reflect on this past year and express where I am currently. Gratitude is the first word that pops into mind. I have been surrounded by such beautiful, amazing, rich and hilarious tribe members. Men and women who love me for who I am at my core, who show up and who provide me an honest reflection of myself so I can either build on or tweak the parts of myself I see. I’ve made a bunch of huge decisions over this past year (and the few before that also) and I as I embark on living in a new place, launching a new business and creating a new physical “norm” for myself I have learned resounding lesson that perspective is everything and I must be very mindful of the things I manifest for myself in my life because my mind is EXTREMELY powerful!!!

I have faced challenges, loss, betrayal, heartbreak and disappointment. We all have. These things happen in life, we must expect it. We must be ready to continue to persevere and learn the lessons that said challenges are here to teach us, for if we don’t, they’ll continue to manifest. I have also faced unconditional love, support, guidance and amazing blessings. As I close old chapters and open new ones, I can see that in between the lines lies the old adage of self-love. Nothing is permanent, except the way I treat myself and others. And through that treatment I can create or tear down. I choose to be a creator. The last 35 years have prepared me to step into my greatness and I am ready, willing and able to do so.

I am in a period of healing. I must heal so that I do not perpetuate pain. Thank you for reading and thank you for being an integral part of who I am today.

With So Much Love,

Simply Megan